Should I be paying for the date this time?
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I've been on 3 dates with this guy, and things seem to be getting pretty serious (strong connection, talk about the future,etc... ). I left on a trip to Europe for three weeks and now I'm back and he wants to take me out to Brunch, or lunch depending on what time we decide on, so we can catch up on everything.
He has paid for everything all three dates, and I don't want him to burn a hole in his wallet! Although he makes a good amount of money, and that is unlikely, I at least feel the need to offer to pay. He's 29, if that helps for anything. (I'm 21).
Some people say whoever wants to go on the date should be paying. I sort of agree with that. I mean it makes more sense. But I don't want him to feel that I'm taking advantage of him, but letting him pay every time without at least offering.
But then, people claim that it offends some men when women offer to pay.
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Also, his birthday happened when I was on my trip so I told him I'd have to take him out on a Birthday dinner. So basically, I'm paying for our next date and I'm sure he knows that. So maybe it's not so bad if he pays for one more?
I don't know. What do you guys think? Should I at least offer to pay?
Thanks!
Am I officially his girlfriend? When do you know?
So!
For those of you who have been following, I've been dating a guy and so far have been on 5 dates with him. (Including his birthday date which went well, yay!)
Every single date has been absolutely amazing and fun, and we have this insane connection, it's all very exciting.
On our last date, we bumped into a friend of his and he introduced me to her as his girlfriend. He said "This is my girlfriend, Hilary"
As clear as it seems, we haven't discussed the status of our relationship so it confuses me. Maybe it shouldn't? I mean if he said "this is my girlfriend" then that means he sees me as his girlfriend right? Should I just leave it at that or should we be having a talk about it.
We've definitely made it clear that we want to be seeing each other for a while.
Also, he told me that as I was gone on a 3 week trip to Europe, he slept with someone and the condom broke. He said he felt like it was a mistake to be with her, and also that he didn't want us to go any further sexually until he goes to the doctors and gets the results in order to make sure he doesn't pass anything on to me that the girl may have had. Although the girl said she didn't have anything, he wants to be sure of it.
Anyway, I thought that was all incredibly mature of him especially to tell me about it. He was very nervous to tell me, but I didn't have a problem with it because we had never established the relationship. We had just started dating (we had gone on 3 dates) so he was allowed to do anything he wanted.
Basically, I feel that this conversation may have been the establishment of our relationship and helped in making it exclusive. He said he was afraid he may have ruined something special between us but at the same time wasn't sure what would happen when I got back, if we'd get back together etc,. So by saying something like that it sounds like now that I'm back he wants to be exclusive. But we haven't really talked about it.
Ah! I always manage to make these uber long. Sorry. Anyway to sum up:
Is calling me his girlfriend enough or should we be having a talk?
I feel we need to talk about it. But I don't want to freak him out about it by making it sound like a big deal. Also, we've only been on 5 dates, shouldn't this talk come up at least like 2 months of dating or something? (By the way he's 29, if that counts for anything. I'm 21)
Thoughts?