Originally Posted by flash84x
yes i agree with this, i consider myself a very intelligent person, hell im an engineer graduate... i should be, but anyway.... there is a time and a place for that... and that is at school or work and when you are in another situation that merits it.... you need a personality that is fun, attractive, interesting, and intriguing... i have no doubt that you are very smart but it is probably in some way narrowed down to a certain area, and guess what people who dont care about that area (i.e. mine is computers/technology) do not want to be bored with details that they dont understand.... you need a generic personality that fits into the norm of society as well....
also, if you are going out to clubs and such, you still dont dress up? i mean... i'm sure there are guys out there that are into that style (baggy clothes) but personally i'm attracted to women who wear sexy clothes, and i dont mean skimpy clothes... i like women who look professional and confident with themselves.... i dont see that in a girl when i see her walking around with baggy jeans/sweats and a shirt 2-3 sizes too big
you've made a good point though, if thats who you are and thats all you will ever be, then continue in your ways, but as others have pointed out, it doesnt seem to be working, i say be adventurous and try dressing up one night and going out and see what kind of results you get... sex appeal is a huge deal and just because a guy is attracted to your looks doesn't mean he is looking at you as a piece of meat, you are smart, i am sure you can weed those ones out pretty quick anyway... men are sexual creatures and the first thing they see in a woman is physical attraction
and again, me personally i would never date a girl that doesn't dress up at least every now and then, maybe it sounds shallow to you or others, but i dont think it is it at all... its what i want in a woman so its what i should be able to have