Vicky,
You will get answers based on how you word your question, and what information it contains. Please don't shoot the messenger for going on what you said, because you either don't like the answer, or you failed to provide enough detail.
We do the best we can with what we get.
I still say, that despite what happened during this 'horrible argument' as you described it, I feel that you should have left.
All the more reason, after reading your second post; as the argument seemed very violent, right down to manhandling you out the door from your first post, you should have left in my opinion.
Someoone suggested that you could have gone and sat in your car and calmed down. That would have been a good idea.
Fire and water seemed to be a good take on how the two of you get along. If that is the case, and neither of you are willing, or able to commit to counselling in order to learn how to communicate in a healthy way, I don't know what you expect as far as advice goes.
Are you going to argue again in the same way as the last? Hope for the best but expect the worst? And how far are you willing to go taking that risk.
I really do wish you well, but what went down during that 'argument'- if the relationship and communication is not worked on, and some simple rules of engagement, for a lack of a better term, aren't worked out, I can only see this getting worse, not better.