She's just not who she is when I first met her, she's moody, does not care about how I feel, doesn't want to have sex like she use too, people say that when girls are pregnant are hornier, but I don't think that's true because my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex. I'm just afraid she's going to treat me like this after she gives birth! And breaking up with her is that last thing I want to do!

I was like that with my son. It is normal. Sometimes I went through phases where I didn't want to be touched or looked at. When my son was born and we were there together it made our bond closer than ever.

She is not who you first met? Well, she was not pregnant with hormones going every which way! Give her a break! Her body is changing to accommodate the baby, her moods will swing, her metabolism changes, her sleep needs change, everything changes. And what about you? Are you going through the same? No, you get to stay the same.

Nature is not fair at all. Try being considerate of her, find ways to help her, take care of things for her that will give her some time for herself. Understand that this is life changing for both of you, yes, but she is feeling is 100% more than you. Everything she eats and drinks now affects the baby. What you eat and drink does not. She has a great deal to worry about and then she has the physical changes going on. Cut her some slack.

Look for ways to support her emotionally. This will all pass and she will get back to herself. She will remember and appreciate how you saw her through this pregnancy.

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I was like that with my son. It is normal. Sometimes I went through phases where I didn't want to be touched or looked at. When my son was born and we were there together it made our bond closer than ever.

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Does it really get even better after.

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She is not who you first met? Well, she was not pregnant with hormones going every which way! Give her a break!! Her body is changing to accomodate the baby, her moods will swing, her metabolism changes, her sleep needs change, everything changes. And what about you? Are you going through the same? No, you get to stay the same.

Nature is not fair at all. Try being considerate of her, find ways to help her, take care of things for her that will give her some time for herself. Understand that this is life changing for both of you, yes, but she is feeling is 100% more than you. Everything she eats and drinks now affects the baby. What you eat and drink does not. She has a great deal to worry about and then she has the physical changes going on. Cut her some slack.

Look for ways to support her emotionally. This will all pass and she will get back to herself. She will remember and appreciate how you saw her through this pregnancy.

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Thank you so much, I just need to apply it count to 10 inhale, exhale and let it go!

Yes, it gets better but a person has a long memory. If you treat your girlfriend with compassion and respect, she will remember that and love you for that. If you treat her like a sex object, then she remembers that too. It took the both of you to create that baby, it will take both of you from now on. After the first few months of pregnancy, it might get better for her. Some of the hormones settle down, her tummy setttles and moods can even out. Be patient and loving.

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she's just not who she is when i first met her, she's moody, does not care about how i feel, doesn't want to have sex like she use too, people say that when girls are pregnant are hornier, but i don't think that's true because my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex. i'm just afraid she's going to treat me like this after she gives birth! and breaking up with her is that last thing i want to do!

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Well.. all girls are different first of all. But one thing. I am much hornier than I used to be:) But, Its just pregnancy. All sort of things happen to girls when they are pregnant. They feel different. Have mood swings. Even maybe not wanting to have sex anymore or are really horny. But she might a little bit be the same. Although after she has the baby she is done stressing about it. The hormones in a woman's body don't change till about 1 year later.. sorry I know its along time but its true. You just have to deal with it.. its pregnancy you can't alwayz think its going to be fun and beautiful when it could be but its not. But sooner or later she will regain her own self back.. so just hang in there and do what you have to do best. Be on her side and the babies.

I wouldn't say it takes a year, but typically the hormones are still crazy for a few months after birth. Then things will get better. Try to put yourself in her shoes. Give her a back rub or foot massage to help her understand that you understand her discomfort. Go buy her that milk shake she is craving (and get one for you too) pregnancy is not easy, and definitely not what its cracked up to be.

Listen hun, my boyfriend and I literally had sex 3 times a day, everyday, basically since we started dating and then when I got pregnant, (In in my 3rd month right now) everything changed. We've had sex maybe 5 times in the last 2 months and I'm moody, whinny and achey all the time. This is his second child, but my frist, his ex, who was poregnant with his first child was super horney all the time and he couldn't stand it! But he can't stand my not putting out either... lol...

Good luck, just remind her that you love her and support her and your baby and she will ease up at times. Just make sure you ALWAYS make sure she feels really loved.

Hey mate,

Congratulations on the upcoming baby. The truth about women is some of them like being pregnant and others don't... and what I mean by that is it's not a conscious decision, even if she says she likes being pregnant she might not like it.

Now during pregnancy your girlfriends hormones (which SEVERELY effect her mood) will be going crazy... like one moment she can be laughing the next she will be throwing cups at you telling you she's going to cut your bits off...

It's YOUR JOB as the guy to be calm, understanding, kind, patient and reassuring. Try to remember she is carrying YOUR kid, that's YOUR future... it might not be a real pleasant thing for her to do. So if you loved her before her pregnancy then love her now, because she really needs you and this personality that has emerged isn't her fault... it's a result of her pregnancy... This is a wonderful experience that you can both share and laugh about in the future, make the most of a bad situation, it won't last forever.