I like a very shy and soft spoken guy. I'm usually real comftobal around guys but he's just different with him he's shy and quiet and I'm used to loud guys who yell coments out whether there inapropriate hurtful or stupid so when I come across him I get scard of his quietness. It intimidates me if that makes sense I've been working myself and have had a few conversations and made him smile a few times. I asked him if he was going to the dance and he said he wasn't planning on going and he's never been to a dance before so I told him he should go he just shrugged and I had turn a different way to get to class. I'm getting a few of my friends who know him and talk to him a lot to get him to go but I'm not sure should I just flat out ask him out or no =/

I can understand why you'd be nervous about his soft spoken nature. That makes it more difficult to gauge his responses to you: whether he's feeling into you. Really, I would not recommend getting your friends to talk to him unless you're in middle school because that's a very middle school behavior that's just going to make him think you're immature. Also, if you can't talk to him comfortably when you're not dating, you may want to consider what sort of quality of a relationship you can have with him. Just talk to him enough for him to open up and get more comfortable with you before you attempt to develop a relationship with him.

I know what it feels like to be that guy. He's probably more nervous than anything.

I say that you should slowly become friends with him. Find out abouty him, then ask him out. It would probably scare him away if you just went up to hikmk and asked him out.

Yeah I used to be like him very shy, timid and nervous. I didn't know who I was but the problem is that I had problems at home still do a little bit. Mayb you don't know anything about him try asking him what do you do at home? Or stuff like that. Maybe he has problems with his parents or someone. I hope everything turns out good for you or maybe he's never been in a relationship before and is afraid.


-alejandro