I'll try to sum things up as quickly as possible... My son is 19 and lived with me all his life up until he turned 17 then moved in with his dad... My sons entire life his dad has called me names and since my son has moved out, he is disrespectful to me... My son doesn't think twice of calling me stupid etc. Our relationship has been very strained since he moved. Last year he decided not to see me for at least 7 months... He's living like a bachelor in his apt with his dad... My son and I recently had a misunderstanding and I made a comment to him that I didn't want to hear it... Apparently his girlfriends mother had a car accident and they were going to the hospital to see her... I didn't hear him say that and now he thinks Im a monster and thinks that I said I didn't care about her being hurt... I said I didn't care to him because he blows me off about stuff and I thought he was doing it again. I didn't hear him say the mother got hurt and he won't believe me.. He has a girlfriend of 2 years that he's involved with.. I called him one day and asked for him to come over to talk and he started making excuses (like he always does). We have been seeing each other about 1x a week for the past 7 months.. I was mad at him because I wasn't invited to take pics of his girlfriend and him going to the prom yet my ex was invited.. My son has never included me in anything, not even the girls mother... My son thinks that Im an abusive parent because when he lived here we fought a lot towards the end... He doesn't treat me or my side of my family as his family only his dad and his family... He doesn't think twice of yelling at me or calling me names.. His dad has always ripped me apart in front of my son and my son acts like its normal to disrespect me... He shuts down to me and doesn't apologize... He recently called me an abusive mother. I am so upset that he would say that to me... The past months we got along fine and now he did a complete 180 on me... The constant problems with him is causing me to get bad migraine headaches and I can't take it anymore.. Ive had people say he will grow up and realize he needs me and will treat me better but Im starting to get physically sick with the stress.. Im just curious what any other mother would do in this situation.. Alot of it is that he is brainwashed to think Im something Im not because of my ex...