I just went to a large car dealership this evening, looked at a car, actually test drove it home, on the way home I called the car dealer to ask him a question about the car, within minutes he sent me a picture message, which is a video message of him completely nude in several different poses. I am still completely shocked over this, can't get over someone doing that, haven't even told my husband about it because I think he will come unglued. What can I do about this? Think I can get a free car out of it, lol, just kidding, but really, is there anything that can be done about this?

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Originally Posted by tmyers2147

I just went to a large car dealership this evening, looked at a car, actually test drove it home, on the way home I called the car dealer to ask him a question about the car, within minutes he sent me a picture message, which is a video message of him completely nude in several different poses. I am still completely shocked over this, can't get over someone doing that, haven't even told my husband about it because I think he will come unglued. What can I do about this? Think I can get a free car out of it, lol, just kidding, but really, is there anything that can be done about this?

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Of course there is - go to the dealership, go to the Police.

I agree with the above. Report it to the dealership and to the police. You have the evidence on your phone. Please make sure that those messages are saved. Just in case they might get lost, you might want to back them up by sending them to a friend. I would also tell your husband about it, but let the dealership and the authorities handle it.

And I am not sure you may not get a free car out of it, they may do a lot to keep this out of the daily news paper, really, But you call the police, and contact the owner of the car lot. ( not a sales maanger but the owner)

Having worked with people who have gone through similar, it is important you go to the police first. The police will then tell you whether to go to the dealer - 9 times out of 10 they won't want you in any sort of contact whatsoever with the dealer after you make your statement for all sorts of reasons.

Before you go off on this, please consider this may have been just a simple mistake. Its possible he accidentally chose the wrong picture. He may not even be aware he sent you that picture. I remember, offering to video my niece's wedding and borrowed her prospecitve father in law's video camera. I was shocked to find some video of the FIL's father flashing the camera. :D Of course I never said anything.

I would just go to the head of the dealership and bring it to their attention. If this has happened before let the dealer take action.

Scott makes a good point. Of course, that'll be his first "excuse" ; "I'm very sorry, I made a terrible mistake, yada, yada, yada,..." ; same thing shoplifters say when they get caught. But in light of that you may want to go to the owner first, before you go to the authorities. As Fr. Chuck said, they have a vested interest in keeping this out of the papers, out of the courts, etc. in which case you just might get a free or very reduced-priced car out of it. Also as Clough said, back up the electronic evidence.

The salesman's intent could also be assessed by texting him and inquiring; "Did you know you sent me a video of yourself?" Upon his reply you will know whether to go to the dealership owner or to Law Enforcement.

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Report him to the people that get YOU what YOU want. If you want to punish him, go to the cops. If you want a great deal on your car, go to the dealership.

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The more I think about this, the more I think it may have been an accident. I mean sending someone a video from a cell phone is tantamount to walking into a police station and opening your raincoat. Its an irrational act. And I doubt if someone could survive very long as any sort of a salesman if they were bent that way.

I believe the man sent you the video by accident.Give him the benefit of doubt before you go to the cops or dealership owner.Ask him by phone what do you text me.You will get your answer,Don't ruin his career,life,etc.. Until you get the facts. Many people assume the wrong thing & run to the police & the police tend to over do it abit & all hell breaks loose.Please... talk to the car salesman first before you decide what to do.

A) if it was a mistake, consider that he HAS nude pics that he sends out in the first place-creepy
B) if he has nude pics, wouldn't he be VERY careful not to mistakenly send them to customers?
C) for goodness sake, report him

I would wonder if some other salesperson could have sent these pictures to you from that guys phone? Maybe they were jealous of him or something... but I would sure as heck involve the police to sort out the details.

And tell your husband, you wouldn't want him to accidentally find those pictures on there and wonder why you hadn't told him... tell him you've already called the police... and are hoping that it is all a big misunderstanding, mistaken identity, or mixup of some kind.

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Originally Posted by Lotustar

A) if it was a mistake, consider that he HAS nude pics that he sends out in the first place-creepy
B) if he has nude pics, wouldn't he be VERY careful not to mistakenly send them to customers?
C) for goodness sake, report him

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A) While this isn't my taste, it don't think it creepy. Could just be something he did for his girlfriend
B) Some people are technology challenged. Yes one woiuld think he would be careful, but one never knows.
C) Again, I would rather err on the side of caution here. This could ruin someone's life for what might be a simple mistake. This is something that can be reported later without recrimination (Sorry officer, but I wanted to make sure it wasn't just an accident before I reported it)

However, I received an e-mail from the OP (she couldn't figure out how to reply to the thread) in which she advised that the salesman resent the video with a text messages "U Like?". So that removes the accident theory. She spoke to someone from the dealer who claimed she must have flirted with him. So she walked out. A few hours later she got a request from the district sales association asking her to meet. Sounds like she may get a cheap car out of it.

She spoke to someone from the dealer who claimed she must have flirted with him.

That statement, would have sent me over the edge.
In that case I just might be on T.V. run an add the paper asking other women if they had been treated like this. I may even be tempted to file a lawsuit if I could find me a good lawyer.

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Originally Posted by tmyers2147

I just went to a large car dealership this evening, looked at a car, actually test drove it home, on the way home I called the car dealer to ask him a question about the car, within minutes he sent me a picture message, which is a video message of him completely nude in several different poses. I am still completely shocked over this, can't get over someone doing that, haven't even told my husband about it because I think he will come unglued. What can I do about this? Think I can get a free car out of it, lol, just kidding, but really, is there anything that can be done about this?

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I found the quick reply option. Thanks all for your answers to my question. I have actually received 2 text messages from the salesman now, the second one actually asked me "U Like" along with the pictures again. I did not call the police but I did go to the dealership and speak with a sales manager, although I asked for someone higher than that, everyone else was on vacation for the holidays. The mgr said he talked to the salesman and that I was flirting with him and that is why he sent the photos. I did not flirt with him, good grief, the man must be ill. I got upset and left the dealership at that time and later received a phone call from a mgr. at the company who owns the dealership asking for a meeting, which I have agreed to. I believe though I will take my friend who is a lawyer with me to the meeting. Thanks for all your great answers.

Please let us know how the meeting goes!

The salesman used poor judgement & I'm sure he regrets its.He read the signs wrong & made a mistake.Its not like you're a minor or he sent you child porn.I just believe in handling my problem in my own way without running to the cops.Im quite sure they have enough things to do then to hear a adult woman complain about a man who sent her inappropriate photos.Be thankful he didn't stalk or harass you.

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Originally Posted by panther196

The salesman used poor judgement & im sure he regrets its.He read the signs wrong & made a mistake.Its not like you're a minor or he sent you child porn.I just believe in handling my problem in my own way without running to the cops.Im quite sure they have enough things to do then to hear a adult woman complain about a man who sent her inappropriate photos.Be thankful he didnt stalk or harass you.

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Did you read through the thread. This guy sent the photos, not once but twice! He might get away with saying he misread signals the first time, but having sent them a SECOND time after not getting a response, is way over the line.

After the second time, the police should have been involved because behavior like that is not an isolated incident.

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Originally Posted by panther196

The salesman used poor judgement & im sure he regrets its.He read the signs wrong & made a mistake.Its not like you're a minor or he sent you child porn.I just believe in handling my problem in my own way without running to the cops.Im quite sure they have enough things to do then to hear a adult woman complain about a man who sent her inappropriate photos.Be thankful he didnt stalk or harass you.

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He used "poor judgment" TWICE - ? I find your "be thankful he didn't stalk or harass you" comment demeaning to women. Reading signals wrong and sending nude photos of yourself are two different things - what signals do you think she sent him?