The people responding to you are shallow reflections of hackneyed adages and regurgitated garbage. I envy their stupidity and the shallowness of their emotions. If you truly loved this man, the pain will never go away. It will destroy you, one way or another. My sincere condolences.

Wow Deus you just described my 12 years of emotional pain... yes, people who are worried that it took 5 months or a year to recover don't have a clue as to real emotional pain... but despite the fact that the pain never goes away the only way it can destroy you is if you let it. I envy the people who can recover in less than 12 years, lol... but more importantly I have learned to let the pain come, experience it, and then go do something, anything, but do something, from eating bacon to cleaning the car. The pain doesn't last as long as it did the first year (every minute) or the sixth year (every week)... but for a relationship that was 32 years long I would be lame if I said I will ever get over it... but I will get better with every passing moment based on the human strength to survive... and more importantly I bring hope to myself because the true picture in knowing that I truly, unconditionally loved and that is something few people can experience... moving on means acknowledging that you didn't stop loving... but the relationship had to stop because someone was unhappy in it. This wasn't my fault because each person lives in only one place... inside their own mind. If you change your own thinking you will heal enough to feel the pain but not let it destroy you.