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  • Jan 15, 2007, 10:37 AM
    mandyb
    DId I make a mistake?
    Hi. Well I don't know how to start this My parents have been married for almost 25 years. They have had there ups and downs in there marrige. My mother lives in Manitoba with her business while my dad has his in Alberta. Although they are still married. My dad has had a history of being unfaithfull (cheating) in the past. Well my father has a women friend (married and has 2 kids) My family think is an akward friendship they have in our eyes. They hangout quite a bit, go out for dinner, movies etc, call each other and email etc. My mom and my siblings and I have confrunted my dad about it and he just tells us its none of our business and they are just friends. Not to mention the fact that this women slept with my uncle while she was still married. One night I told my father how I felt about her and that I didn't like her as a person (also to mention I was friends with her before I found out thing were getting wierd) My father got so mad and upset that now he's kicking me out of the house. I has just been bothering me and my mom and sibilings to see my father care more about this women than working on his family and kids. My question is as well is... DId I make a mistake? Did I do something wrong?
  • Jan 15, 2007, 10:54 AM
    sunshine303
    I don't think you did anything wrong! My father did the same thing to me almost 7 years ago, but he married her two months after he kicked me out. I really know how painfull it is when a parent puts another woman before his children. Just learn from the pain you are in and vow to never put your own child through that.
  • Jan 15, 2007, 11:04 AM
    chippers
    In expressing your feelings of how his indifference is affecting you is not wrong. It must be hurting so much to see how someone you looked up to could betray you and your family. The fact that it bothers you tells me you love yourfather. Its often hard to see then (dads) as human beings who make mistakes.
    The question is, do you still want to stay in your home? If you do then I suggest you sit downand talk to your dad calmly. Talk to him as your father not as your mother's child. It'll go over easier that way. I can't garuntee he'll give up his lady friend but at least he'll hear his daughter.
    Your main concern is you and your dad and not anyone else including his lady friend. Your mother and siblings are dealing with it in their own way. You need to handle in yours.:)
  • Jan 15, 2007, 11:36 AM
    Sodium
    You certainly ddint do anything wrong... dont start thinking you did either because its his fault he's not connecting with his own Family... u should have a family meeting get your mom to fly in and just talk to him

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