Nothing hurts as bad as this. Will someone make my day?
Hey, sorry if this is long. I'm just a hurt, average 18 year old guy who needs advice from anyone who's willing to give it.
My ex and I've been broken up for almost a year now. Although she has a new boyfriend, we remained close friends. Then somewhere mid year, we had a major argument because I was jealous (I still had strong feelings for her at the time) and fell out. We didn't speak for about 7 months or so. But recently she got back into contact with me and we started speaking to each other again.
There was one incident a few weeks ago where she saw me on the bus and the next day she spoke to me on msn, bringing up our past and flirting with me a lot. She even asked me out for a movie and being the naïve person I am, I agreed. When the day came, she stood me up saying she was meeting her friends (which I'm pretty sure was her bf). Sometimes she won't reply my texts or she'll reply 1 or 2 and then ignore the next one.
Of course, because I still do have feelings for her, it hurts. A lot. I feel used by her all over again. I found out from a friend that she told her current boyfriend that she used me to get over her ex. But I know I fell hard. Everyone did. They warned me about her but I couldn't bring myself to listen. Its been almost a year and I can't see anyone in the same light as I see her. What am I to do? It really hurts :(
Was I right to have stopped trying
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When we were together, despite telling me she loved me and all the bs, I still could not see her trying hard enough. When I met her, she was fresh out of a relationship. She told me it was because she had feelings for me that her ex ended things with her. I was totally unaware of this.
During my time with her, I fell head over heels, but I noticed that she wasn't really even trying to make our relationship work. She was playful, not serious about anything, kept flirting with other people... And I had a strong notion she was not over her ex.
I became wary of her and decided to stop trying too, but I didn't end our relationship just yet. I mean, I was still in love with her for God's sake. Soon enough she noticed and went around complaining that I wasn't serious about her and wasn't trying hard enough. And then one night, it was over. She met me just to break up with me in person and left. I was crushed but I knew it was coming, I just didn't want to let her go. Now she's with someone else and doesn't give two hoots about me but I'm still very much not over her.
What now?
Have you ever regretted NOT doing something in a relationship?
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Sorry this is a little long. If you could be patient with me, that'd be really nice.
My ex and I were seeing each other for about 8 months. Initially everything was good. We both had strong feelings for each other. The honeymoon stages as you would say. Then midway, our relationship started getting rocky. Well first and foremost, she's the playful type who is never serious about anything. I've heard many stories about the way she treats her boyfriends but I didn't want to believe them.
She claimed she really loved me but I doubted her and I was afraid to put my all into the relationship. She noticed and asked if I was really serious about her. Of course I was, but I guess pride got in the way and I never told her. After that we only texted and called and hardly spent time with each other in person. What kind of a relationship is that where the couple doesn't spend time with each other? But I guess I was really afraid of getting hurt. We broke up and now she has someone who probably makes her happier than I did or ever could. Ironically, its been months and I can't get over her. What do I do? I really regret not making full use of the time I had with her :(