Devastating Breakup(Left for someone else)
About 3 weeks ago I received a message from a girl asking what my then boyfriend and I were. She explained how she was his girlfriend and she had asked about me because from my online pictures it seemed we were more than just friends, which is what he was telling her. I ignored her, not wanting to be a part of any unhealthy drama (I thought she was just some girl that was just interested in him at that point) so I ignored her. She kept messaging me so I asked her if you know him tell me things about his life. She did, and went into full detail. Like how much his 3 year old son loves her, how he wanted to marry her in a year and that’s when she would be able to meet his family. The same things he told me. We were together for a year and I became very close with his family and sisters already (who are very upset with him after I told them about the break up) I confronted him about her. He promised that they were just friends but he would stop being friends with her since she was trying to cause drama. I believed and trusted him. The next night I get a call from him at 3am... It was her! She said she called him to get a ride from the bar and snuck his phone away to call me. I guess To prove to me what was really going on. She said she was on my side and we needed to get together to confront him. I didn’t want to do that and betray him, I told her to leave me alone and to not call me. I called him the next day. He “came clean” about everything. He said they were just talking for the past two or three months. But started becoming intimate a few weeks ago. He said even though he cares, and loves me he is not in love with me and doesn’t want me to go through his cheating issues anymore. But I find out they have been together almost everyday since we broke up. She was being vindictive the whole time,she knew I was the girlfriend and she was the other woman. Why would she stay with him when she was the other woman? She knew about me,not in the beginning but a little later. She would see my hairs all over his apartment she later told me. I confronted the both of them about it. He says he has strong feelings for her and that they just click better and she’s more fun and basically the opposite of me. Which she seems to be.He basically at this point has turned everything around on me saying that he used to be head over heals but I just overreacted about things one too many times. That I should have been more affectionate cleaned and cooked more. I basically have done everything your not suppose to to try to get the person back and it has pushed him further away(even though he cheated.I told him I believed in him and that he could change and stand by his side) He and her now within a few days posted pictures of them together online and changed his relationship status to not single (which he never did for me!) He has deleted us as friends through all networking and blocked me from his phone. So now I can’t even call him to get my belongings. I feel he has turned everything around on me without giving me any closure and making me feel like this woman means more to him with just a few weeks than I ever meant to him the whole year we were together. His family loved me and I loved them(especially his son) I spoke with his sisters and they are upset and really like me but I feel I shouldn't have contact with them as well. I haven't had any contact in two weeks. A part of me doesn't want him back but another part of me does. I've been trying to be healthy with no contact and keeping busy,etc. I guess I need help getting through this and figuring out why still though? Will he ever contact me again. I wonder if he's really in love or if it's just lust.I know I shouldn't care about him right now and be concetrating on me but it's been very hard!