I have been married for 12yrs and have a 2yr son. My husband & I fight a lot and my son hears it. I know it is not good for him. The one reoccurring fight is over sex. I want to have it and he doesn't. We are both in our early-mid thirties, but this has been going on for pretty much our whole marriage. We are both over weight. He blames his sex drive on that and that I have a hormonal problem. He has hide buying porn from me, but I caught him numerous times. When he watches porn, he does not want to have sex. I have caught him in lies. I have found hairs that should not be where there were and he has not explanation for them. I have only one idea of who they could have been... another woman's. They were in a sleeping bag that he took with him on a "fishing/camping" trip with a buddy. That was a long time ago, but I can't let it go. He would never come clean, I would have to catch him first. He is paranoid.. he thinks that his boss is tapping his phone and gps tracking him. I go along to avoid a fight. We go months without having sex.. not just 1 or 2 sometimes as many as 3 or 4! Not by my choice either, I try at least once or twice a month. I get turned down about 8-9 times out of 10.. honestly! I get the excuses... I am tired, I don't feel good, just no excuse and the latest he wanted to see a TV show. His reasoning is that we have a son and he needs to lose weight... and it is my fault and I have the sexual problem-that I want sex way too much and that I am not a good wife. He has told me too many times to count that he would change and has not. He says it is my fault he has not lost weight. I am so tired of being hurt.. I love my son and my husband, but he has hurt me too many times. How can he love me and treat me this way. I believe that he has at least cheated once, but not sure... I can not prove it. Is he cheating now? Should I kick him out again, but for good?