Married for 41 yrs to a very successful man who traveled a lot and drank a lot. Suspected he had had an affair in the past but chose to ignore. Recently discovered phone calls to several unknown numbers. After confrontation, he admitted having a couple of 'one night stands' and an intermittent 2 yr affair and an intermittent 5 yr affair nearly 20 yrs ago. He has however, remained in touch w/2 of these women as well as other female friends through the years. So in addition to 'physical cheating'... we have 'emotional cheating' at best as well.
I feel betrayed on many levels... we are retired, have a good social life but after 2 yrs, I am very very angry. Its very difficult to bail out at my age tho' I never want to look back and say... "coulda, should have...
P.S. He's very apolgetic and I doubt he wld cheat on me now that he's been discovered. But he's definitely NOT the man I married w/hight expectations for his family but not for himself.