How do I deal with a control freak husband?
I have been married 25 years and the control is getting worse. I am not allowed to shop(even for graceries) and when I do but anything I get the third degree and a long lecture. He goes and gets what ever he wants whenever he wants. I am always being accused of wasting the money. Our bills are always late and I have no idea what we have or what we owe. This has always been a sore spot with me. When I get angry and throw a fit he will finally sit down and show me a list of bills but that is as far as it goes. Sometimes I just spend money (nothing great) just to show him that I do not intend to listen to him if he can't listen to my need to be a partner. I was a single parent before we married and always lived within my budget. I don't think he has ever had a budget or knows how to make one. He lost the only home that we ever owned and then got into trouble with other peoples insurance money.. Even during his really bad times( he spent 6 months in prison) I fullfilleed my vows and stayed. I am just becoming more and more angry every day at how bad he treats me and always says that I am the problem. If I truly am the problem then I want to do something.. but I somehow don't think that I am the source. Can you help before I get so angry that I do something stupid??