Can't get my heart past second husband
:( :( I am in my fourth marriage. I would have to tell you my life story to tell you how I got to #4. I used to think my second husband John was my soulmate. I loved him very much and still do. Alcohol was the factor in our split. My life has been what I call a living hell since our divorce. At first I wan't dreaming at all. At least not remembering them if I did. I thought I was suffering from depression. Finally, after 10-12 yrs I found out from a Social Security Phsycologist I was suffering from a bi-polar disorder. I've started meds from my family physician. My dreams have come back. The big problem is my dreams are of him and I don't think it's fair to my present husband to not be able to give my whole heart to him. I often wake up crying form these dreams because some are good, some are not so good. I am still very much in love with John. I need to know how to let go. My present husband does not know of these dreams or how I feel about John. John and I now live in separate states. He's in Ohio and I'm in WV. Do I need a phsycologist to deal with the loss of the man I am still in love with? Please help. I'm so tired of these dreams and kicking myself in the butt everyday for divorcing him. What do I do? I need to give Jim(my present husband) all of my heart. I am totally lost. Help me please, CynthiaB