Am I going to make a mistake.
?? hi.. I'm 18 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We never thought anything serious would come out of our relationship when we first started dating... About a year into our relationship he enlisted to go into the navy, so he's been there for about the past 5 months. After a visit to him 2 months ago, I realize that there is no one else I want.. and it's the same with him... but here's my question... is this just because of the distance that is between us ( 1100 miles) or could we really be in love. He's thinking about asking me to marry him, and I love him and I would, but I just can't see myself getting married this young.. ( well I could until he started talking about it) I love him and I want to be with him, but it really just scares me, because for the first time I feel clueless. I don't want to be a statistic and get divorced.. Another thing is.. I'm 18 yrs old. And I just recently dropped out of college, and while I'm already taking telecourse and plan on enrolling at a local college in January.. I don't think my parents would approve until I finish school. My mom doesn't want me to be like her... ( she would barely make enough to survive by herself) and sometimes she thinks getting married to my step dad was the worst mistake she could have made, because they fight constnatly and now, they are not finacially stable anymore.
I just feel so confused. I love that boy to death.. and I'd never do anything to hurt him, and I think the only way we'd end our relationship is if he cheated on me.. I have no desire not to be w/ him.. but at the same time. I don't want to get married right now.. and I told him maybe in 2 years I'd be ready and he said that he wants to do it sooner, because he's afraid he'll lose me...
I'm so confusedededed??
Just over some advice or feedback! Thanks I appreciate it!
Re: am I going to make a mistake.
Don't do it. You are lucky in that you already know what is best for you BEFORE you make the mistake. You can love him and he can love you, but pushing into something like marriage never ends well. If he truly loves you, then he will wait. As for your mother, she is correct in that you should finish school first. Make yourself dependent on only you, first, before you start depending on another. Financial difficulty is the number 1 reason for divorce. Make a life for yourself first and then decide who you want to share it with. If he is still around waiting and loving, then great. If he is not, then he was not truly the one you were destined to share your wonderful life with. Go with your first gut feeling.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
Scorpio
Re: am I going to make a mistake.
Gut feelings stink.. but I suppose scorpio you are right.. I DO think we will gt married but not until I'm ready for it. And he now doesn't want to get married until he is at least back from his first or second deployment.. the end of his first deployment is about a year away or so. He's really scared that if he's deployed ( 6 months at a time-with little to no contact--that I will just be like oh well, its time to move on.. but I won't.. I'm not that type of person.. I have more respect for him that) so we will see. I asked him yesterday, if all this had just come about because he missed me, and he said yes, but no, he can see us together, and he can see us with kids, a house and a future.
:-[??