Originally Posted by sheppardl7
We know he is lying because he lied and said it was an all-male gym. From what I get from your last posts, when you confronted him about it, he still denied and laughed it off. I know (and this is from someone that's been lied to plenty) that I would rather be told the truth and be mad than to be lied too. If you lie to your spouse, all you do is build that memory back up whether it was to spare your feelings or not. When people tell you lies, they are not protecting anyone but themselves. Maybe he doesn't want to argue or maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but the fact of the matter is, it's still a lie. When you found out the truth about the women attending the gym, weren't you hurt anyway? So to avoid all of that, just tell the truth. All you are doing is prolonging the inevitable by lying to someone. I hate that. You don't give someone else a choice of feelings when you lie to them. You are making a decision for them, I think. Also, he is showing very little regard for your feelings. He knows that him going to the gym is hurting you. He lied about the women there, so now you have to worry about what else he is lying about. One more thing, if he is going there to avoid an argument with you, doesn't it defeat the purpose by you two arguing about him going anyway?