I am 26 year old and I am married for 6 years and have two girls... We do not have any communication, I already talked to him about it but nothing good is happening and if I ask him something he gets mad for no reason. If I try to talk to him he says "Yeah, it is my fault, it is always my fault". I would like to tell him that we should give ourselves sometime apart and see if it works out better. Should I do that?

You have two children so separating can be a devastating choice to make. Do what it takes to help each other before you make that decision. Tell him it needs to happen NOW, TODAY, not LATER, but NOW. Get your point across by telling him you are honestly thinking of leaving and see where it may take you. Therapy might be something to consider. Good luck to you. Try and keep it together is my first choice!

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Originally Posted by VRODRIGUEZ

I am 26 year old and I am married for 6 years and have two girls...We do not have any communication, I already talked to him about it but nothing good is happening and if I ask him something he gets mad for no reason. If I try to talk to him he says "Yeah, it is my fault, it is always my fault". I would like to tell him that we should give ourselves sometime appart and see if it works out better. Should I do that?

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I agree summarily with StartOver22.

I am such an advocate for "staying together" as a family---really. Yet, I can not deny the notion to consider that perhaps, within this situation there may be a need to evaluate whether the "season is possibly over".

Based on the written statement of: "We do not have any communication, I already talked to him about it but nothing good is happening and if I ask him something he gets mad for no reason".
Just my gut instinct is signifying that perhaps the "season" of this relationship may be coming to a close.

Thus, I agree, it is time to take a stand now, express your feelings and accept the objectives or rejections given once you have done so. Moving on, may be an inevitable option at this point--which inevitably occurs when "seasons" change.

Thanks for accepting my thoughts on this matter.
Please respond if you need to.

Hope this Helps.
Tomy M. Hall, MS

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Originally Posted by Marily

I dont think time apart would do you any good, maybe he will get even more distant from you if you do that, i dont know of what faith you are but i stumble across alot of situation that is out of my control and nobody could help me but Jesus, and whenever i feel like giving up i get on my knees and ask Him to give me strenght to endure my trials. He do answer my prayers, not in my time but in His. God bless, and hope ive helped

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Marily, I pray too but we really can't give up like that. God gave us choice for a reason and he just helps us do the right thing. He doesn't do it for us. As I said before, therapy would be great, if he denies it then we know what the answer is.

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Originally Posted by VRODRIGUEZ

I am 26 year old and I am married for 6 years and have two girls...We do not have any communication, I already talked to him about it but nothing good is happening and if I ask him something he gets mad for no reason. If I try to talk to him he says "Yeah, it is my fault, it is always my fault". I would like to tell him that we should give ourselves sometime appart and see if it works out better. Should I do that?

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Not unless you willing to risk losing him. The response you gave, leads me to think your nagging at him. Men do not respond well to nagging. They just dig in their heels on the subject. You need to be on the same page. He may think he's alone and can do no right by you... so why try. Men are not good at communication about feelings. I suggest trying something more simple. Say goodbye with a hug and a kiss each day. When he comes home.. don't unload on him the second he comes in the door. Give him a moment to get his bearings. Again if you love him... touch... hug... no conditions. Let him know no matter what you love him... not with words but actions... if your sex life is dwindling, it's a thing to be concerned about. If he is losing interest it means trouble. You're a team... time to let him know your on his side.

Hi,
I am fifty .Married for 25 years .Happily. With Two kids.
You are 26, married for six years ,with two kids.

We have had our ups and down inlife.. . You state ""He says , yeah it is my fault and it is always my fault. "" Brought back some personal memories .
I hope that what I write here will help to bring you both together.

You need to do a sincere and thorough , retrospective analysis .

How long since this change in attitude? Was there a family support commitment , from your parents , which did not come through?
From when?
Where is he working ?
Is he happy at his work , present job ?Was he due for a promotion , which did not come through.
( Can u discreetly check this out )
What are your sources of income?
Are you leaving within your means? Is expenditure , beyond income?
Are you spending more thime with your kids. When he comes home?
Are you , yourself , spending more than the income?
Do you realise , and understand , the changes , within you, your outlook , after becoming a mother of two?

Are you going through a Financial crisis ?

Are you in a position , to support him , if this is the case?

Let me tell you , the reason for attitude change occurs , with relaltion to the questions I have asked above .
You should take help from your parents / friends , who know you and spouse , well .

One other reason , which , I hope is not the reason , if he is seeing or interested in someone else. I hope not . Then , find out who that is and have a one to one with that person .
Sinerely , hope to hear things work out fine for you, by GOds grace .


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Originally Posted by VRODRIGUEZ

I am 26 year old and I am married for 6 years and have two girls...We do not have any communication, I already talked to him about it but nothing good is happening and if I ask him something he gets mad for no reason. If I try to talk to him he says "Yeah, it is my fault, it is always my fault". I would like to tell him that we should give ourselves sometime appart and see if it works out better. Should I do that?

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Hi, I am also 26 with 2 kids and married for 3 years, but been with my hubby for a total of 8 years. Me and my hubby were going through extremely hard times last year. We finally went to a therapist (not telling you, you should or should not go) but the best advice the therapist gave us was to read a book. It's called 'The Love Languages' I will swear by this book that it saved my marriage. I actually lended this book to my sister in law and now my own sister has borrowed it. Good luck w/ everything and go buy that book! Your marriage is worth it! :)

Hello.

Your not alone in this. Most couples hit a turning point around 5 years into the relationship. It's the Kids and the money, job, lack of lustfully Love Making, all rolled up into a ball that makes him pull into his own little world. His place to hide and let the world around him go past.

What needs to be done is simple, Bring back the spark. You're the one that has to do it because he doesn't see the problem. Its not going to happen over night but with some work on your part it will happen.

Now we are talking about a Man so he thinks with his lower head so that's the brain you need to get the attention of hehehe (im a man I know hehehe)... Im sure you know many ways to get his attention but make them New and Exciting. Bring days and days of foreplay into this before you hit the bed room. Make him take notice and want to come home from work to see what's next.

If you need ideas let me know.

Dennis777

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Originally Posted by VRODRIGUEZ

I am 26 year old and I am married for 6 years and have two girls...We do not have any communication, I already talked to him about it but nothing good is happening and if I ask him something he gets mad for no reason. If I try to talk to him he says "Yeah, it is my fault, it is always my fault". I would like to tell him that we should give ourselves sometime appart and see if it works out better. Should I do that?

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Hey ,yes I think you should do that or may be you should take him and go to a doctor for advice and to try to know what's wrong with him :S