Wife is having an affair .
I feel cornered and don't know where
To turn for help; my life is hell and torture day in day out.
I really hope that somebody maybe will be able to
Advice me what to do. Here is my story in a nutshell.
My wife and I are married for 18 years, 2 kids.
I suffered from depression for a number of years, untreated, I
Hit the rock bottom in December last year when I prepared everything
For committing suicide. I do not remember exactly those days, I
Cannot be sure what and how stopped me then. I started medical
Treatment in the early January this year, and it seems to help
Somewhat. Sometime in December I accidentally discovered that my
Wife has been having an emotional affair with her coworker. Before,
During my depression worsening, I was not good to my wife, almost
Neglected her; we tried a couple of times counselling etc but in
Vain. When I discovered about her affair, it was a terrible shock,
I had a break-down, but yet at the same time I saw the abyss I
Was going towards, and went to seek professional help, etc. I try
Very hard, as much as I can, to win my wife back, but at this point
She is so much in love with the other person, that whatever I do
Does not do any good, all my attempts are interpreted in a negative
Way, etc. I read all those books about saving marriage, they all
Say the same think - for this thing to work, the affair must be
Over, and the one involved in it should be remorseful and willing
To get back to their spouse. None of these two are present in
My wife's case. I don't know what to do. I still love my wife, I
Love my kids very much, I do not want divorce. Please help me!