Psycho pregnant ex-girlfriend
My son (22) started dating an 18-yr-old about 18 months ago. I asked him what they were doing for birth control and she had told him that she had had "an operation to have everything taken out" and couldn't get pregnant. I told him no doctor would agree to that for a girl so young. During their relationship she seemed very possessive, and friends now state that all she talked about was how she couldn't wait to get married. I mentioned to her that we were waiting for him to join the Coast Guard after he took his GED.
This past September my son got the news that she had stomach cancer. I was terribly upset. Even though I don't like the girl, I knew her prognosis was not good. (I am a cancer patient myself and she knew this.) A week later when I saw her, she told me it wasn't stomach cancer, it was actually lung cancer. She described in detail her visit to the doctor, the x-rays, the lung biopsy, her family history of the disease. I called once a week after that to check on her, to see if she had gotten an oncologist, to find out exactly what kind of cancer we were dealing with. Her reply was that she was waiting for the insurance company, there was a glitch in the paperwork or something. After many weeks of doctor's visits that didn't materialize, my son and I got suspicious. He said she would get defensive and tell him it was none of his business every time he asked about it. She and he had even moved in with her parents under the understanding that they could take care of her through chemotherapy.
After things not adding up for some time, I convinced him to move out of her parents house. (He never did discuss it with them, I can't tell you why, lack of nerve maybe).
In December, my son calls and tells me she told him she doesn't have lung cancer, but that she is pregnant. (She is due in 2 weeks). I realize now that she waited until it was much too late to do anything before she told him.
I called her parents to find out their stance on this, and they wanted to hear nothing I had to say! They don't care what she told whom or when, they told me to bring a lawsuit if I wanted to. They are allowing her to keep the baby and go on welfare at their home. Then they called me a crazy person and hung up.
I am devastated by the whole turn of events. That we had been so thoroughly deceived by an 18-yr-old girl. And that her parents don't care. And that now I will have a baby granddaughter (my first grandchild) being brought up by a family of lunatics! I truly think she purposely set him up, she's so obsessed with him and didn't want him to leave her for the Coast Guard. He stayed with her longer than he wanted to because he thought she had lung cancer.
My son has witnesses who also heard this girl say that she couldn't get pregnant, and he has a release form signed and dated by her that she told him a lawyer said that he had to sign that stated that he understood the effects of chemotherapy on his unborn child.
We are emotionally wrecked by this whole thing. The stress is really starting to get to me. I feel like all we can hope for is that the girl ends up on drugs (not an impossibility) and that my son will get custody. Right now he says he wants nothing to do with her or the baby, and I can't say I blame him. I hope I never have to see her face again.
Do we have any legal recourse for the emotional stress she had put us through? Is there anything we can do to save that poor baby? The girl obviously needs psychological help, yet she has her parents as snowed as we were. If we were to sue her, what exactly would we sue her for?
Thanks for any ray of hope you can offer us.