After 41 years of marriage, I am divorced. Not sure how to address myself - Mrs or Ms:o

You are no longer Mrs. but Ms.

Tick

I changed back to Ms as Mrs reminded me too much being married !

Yep. I've gone to Ms. but I've stayed with his last name because my kids have that name, as well. And I'm the mom!

Why can't it still be Mrs? When a husband dies you still use Mrs.

I am not changing my name back to my maiden name, so it isn't Miss XXX. I will forever be Mrs. XXX

My son's girlfriends cannot call me by my first name, so to them its Mrs. XXX. Ms. or Miss, doesn't cut it!

Its just how I will do it after being married for 37 years and dumped by a cheating husband! I am not a Miss, and Ms. to me was used by feminists who didn't like to be called Mrs. So Ms is out as well. I am old fashioned, only been with my husband and when I die I will still be Mrs. XXXXX

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Originally Posted by NoWayNoDivorce

Why can't it still be Mrs? When a husband dies you still use Mrs.

I am not changing my name back to my maiden name, so it isnt Miss XXX. I will forever be Mrs. XXX

My son's girlfriends cannot call me by my first name, so to them its Mrs. XXX. Ms. or Miss, doesnt cut it!

Its just how I will do it after being married for 37 years and dumped by a cheating husband! I am not a Miss, and Ms. to me was used by feminists who didnt like to be called Mrs. So Ms is out as well. I am old fashioned, only been with my husband and when I die I will still be Mrs. XXXXX

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I have no idea why you are so hostile other than the 37-year marriage, cheating husband part. Whether Ms. is/was used by feminists is not the issue here. In fact, if you want to discuss feminists that would be a good discussion thread.

Your example doesn't fly - I'm a widow, I'm still Mrs. John Jones because I was married when my husband died.

You are divorced. You are no longer Mrs. John Jones. You are Mrs. Sally Jones if that is who you choose to be.

This is the legal answer and I've seen it addressed it Court. You lost the Mrs. "John" Jones part when you divorced. In fact, there very well may be another Mrs. John Jones.

I earned the respect. I'm keeping the Mrs.

You may have earned the respect but why do you associate respect with the terminology 'Mrs'?

Some women do not choose to be called this after marriage preferring 'Ms' instead wanting to keep their indepence.

I believe using ''Mrs" after divorce is living a lie or hiding behind it, unless one is doing fhis for business purposes, then that is perfectly understandable.

Tick

How does "Mrs" equal respect?

Women's identities are no longer based on whether they are single or married.

Welcome to a whole new Century!

From the day I married, I have always been, Ms. I have asked people to address my daughter as Ms. instead of Miss. I see no need to define whether one is single or married.

Interesting that 'Mr.' always stays 'Mr.'

Maybe try Ms for a while. That only defines you, not your marital status.

I have done two things, moved to using Ms rather than Mrs, and reverted to my maiden name, just like mumtosix, they both reminded me too much of being married!

Wish I could find such an easy way of removing my new partners ex - preferably to another solar system...

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Originally Posted by newbeginnings

I have done two things, moved to using Ms rather than Mrs, and reverted to my maiden name, just like mumtosix, they both reminded me too much of being married!

Wish I could find such an easy way of removing my new partners ex - preferably to another solar system......

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Haha, yes I bet you would like that!

Glad you got that 'conumdrum' sorted out.

Don't be a stranger here, you have a good sense of humor!