Divorce before or after I deliver the baby
Hello,
I am convinced that my hisband has some lose screws. He is becoming more dependent on me financially. Yes he lost his job in June and is making no effort to find work even if its off the books. I am 9 weeks pg. I aborted the other baby back in feb 2008 and I feel abortion is not an option right now.
I really thought he would change and get his act together but I am realizing, if I stay he will never.
My question is, would it be easier to divorce him before the baby or after I have the baby. Sigh... 'What have I gotten myself into' I feel by him feeling the need to impregnate me is his way of leeching on as a free financial ride. Ps I am scared of what's the best thing to do.divorce, Abortion or what.
Thank u.
Openpetal
A psychotic husband and I am 10 weeks pg!
Hi,
I probably wrote in the wrong topic instead of this one. I am so unsure about this pregnancy. My husband was admitted into a psychiatric hospital yesterday. He has anger and mental problems that have grown out of my hands. I don't feel comfortable with having his baby and worrying if the baby will come out like him with those behavioral issues. I should've disconnected before I got pregnant. I don't know what to do and I feel having 4 kids is a lot. I already have 3. I want to do the right thing but I cannot continue my marriage with my destructive husband. I am scared yet time is running out. If I abort the baby, I know he will probably try to kill himself. I was looking into moving out before he returns. Sigh.
(REAL QUICK) I didn't tell anyone, but I spoke to his younger sister and she told me that their mother was a theif, drug addict while pregnant with him on Heroine. After she gave birth to him, she left him in the hospital. She said when he was 14 and she was 10, they used to do the nasty. (not dry humping either) She said she didn't know any better and he would turn her around and have real sex with her from behind. (I COULDN'T STOMACH THIS) I am not comfortable with being married to him yet I hardly know him! SHould I get rid of this baby under the circumstances? If you were pregnant for your husband or boyfriend and find out that mentsal illness runs in the family and realize you weren't the one going crazy, what would you do? He is unemployed as well so the weight would be all on me. I am scared to be with him and would prefer to get a divorce and just be friends. Would you abort the baby if you were in my situation or have it. This is so heavy, I can't even think clear. Thank you for your opinions.:confused:
Openpetal