Can't Move On From Ex. Want to Work Things Out
My ex boyfriend of almost 7 years broke up with me almost a year ago. I haven't been able to move on, it seems like it just happened yesterday. I guess part of the problem is I didn't follow the "no contact" rule. Ever since the breakup, we would still see each other and talk on the phone, e-mail, etc. He would visit a couple times a month, take me out to dinner and a movie, and we act like we're still a couple. He would hold my hand, kiss me, etc. Lately I've been wanting to work things out because it's been 11 months and the relationship is still in "limbo"- I've told him I want to work things out and he tells me I'm pushing it and shouldn't be doing that, just to let things happen the way they should, he still loves me, but he's really busy now and if it was meant to be, that it will happen, just don't keep pushing the issue. Well it's been so emotional for me and I have to admit, I have been calling more often. If he doesn't call for a couple days, I begin to feel needy and upset and I let him know about it. So there's been a lot of fighting. Last conversation we had over the phone was a week ago. That ended in an argument, me crying and hanging up on him. Haven't heard from him since. I just figure I'd finally let him be without me and give him is breathing room, allowing him to "miss me" if the 7 years meant anything at all to him. And he would eventually contact me. I figured since I've been throwing myself at him and basically showing him that I couldn't live without him, he knew he had me so he didn't have to put forth any effort. How long should I expect before he contacts me- if he ever does? I'm just so broken hearted because I would think someone I was with for that long wouldn't just cut me off like that. Thanks so much in advance for all your advice.