Was dating a girl who lives with her ex husband.
Hello all,
I will try to be brief here... Met a girl, well she works somewhere that I am a client, and she gave me her #. I didn't call for a while, as I wasn't really sure if I was interested. Anyway, we finally started talking. She told me that she still lives with her EX HUSBAND, but they are NOT TOGETHER, and haven't been for a year. But she let him back in because she couldn't pay her rent.
I was sleeping with someone else at the time, and I mentioned to her, please don't call me tonight because I'll be with this other person.
We hung out in my car once or twice, talking. The third time she basically raped me in my car. Then came this jealousy over an ex GF on my Facebook. She couldn't understand that I am close to an ex GF from years ago. It almost ended right there, but it got smoothed out.
So after that, she would come over to my place, we'd have sex. We'd text every day, all day. Then came a message, "i think i'm falling in love with you". Then a few weeks later, she tells me that she loves me.
We never went anywhere. She never had time. I guess she didn't want to make her ex suspicious. She later told me that she had to deal with a lot of BS from him. After 3 months, she broke up with me, saying she doesn't have the time for a relationship. Her ex still wants to be with her, but she's told him that they will never be together. But she doesn't want to hurt him, while loving someone else, while they are living together. Her APT lease is up in October, this is when she is supposed to be getting away from him.
She said, lets take the next few months and get to know each other better. I want to stay close to you until then. I still love you... bla bla bla...
I asked her if I had a chance with her in the future, and she wouldn't say yes or no.
I asked her a few days later if she wanted to be F buddies, she said YES. But it never happened. She would still text me, saying she missed me. But we never got together, except for a couple times, where she made plans to hang out with me the next day, then cancelled. That's something she does A lot!
I then went nuts and was txting her asking too many questions about the break up and the future and how sad I am. Finally she told me that she needs a break from me, we're JUST FRIENDS for now, and as of now I don't see it going any further. We're not a good match for friends. I'm sorry. *** leave me alone. So I tried, but couldn't. Sent another 7 texts. She said this has to stop. So I finally stopped. A week went by, I contacted her again, and we're "txt friends" again. She said I never thought you were a bad guy, just needed to let things fade.
I just WISH I could know if she actually cared about me. I'm sure she was just looking for an escape, and maybe she did fall for me, then got snapped back to reality somehow. I was very clingy. I am a depressed person, and have used prescription pills for this reason in the past. So when she came along, she made me happy, so I tried to make her my whole life. So sad I know.
But the point is, I really want her, if not now, then in the future.
Do I stay in contact with her and stay friends, or do I need to just let her go for good?