My boyfriend cheated on me he swears he won't do it again but I need to know before we move on

Easy answer here -- how many cheaters say I will never do it again? He is just a "boy" friend --move on while you can say that. -- Savage

You will always have doubts now if he is or not, move on and before you even say I love him think of this... Did he love you enough not to cheat_no he did not.

Did he love you enough not to put you at risk of sexual transmitted diseases if he had sex with the other person?. no he did not

Now to me that would tell me in itself he is not the guy I would want in the future with me.

Obviously, he might very well cheat again. You cannot predict the future and nobody can guarantee he will not cheat again.

But, can you still trust him now?

If you do, then give him a second chance...

You have to follow your heart on this one.

My husband cheated on me, I forgave him, and he just kept on doing it. I think once a cheat always a cheat, but it's a gamble only you can take.

Good luck.

I would say if he really is sorry give him another chance. I met my husband in high school and he ended up cheating on me. Two years later we got back together, and he is the most faithful man ever. Everyone makes mistakes... if you really love him, and it only happened once, then forgive him.

Forgive but don't forget.
If they really cared about you then they wouldn't have cheated.
Move on.

If he just said sorry, that's not enough. You need to make him swear up and down, prove to you; you can trust him. Yes everyone makes mistakes. But for some reason, I think men are stupid enough to make the same misstake multiple times. SO as a female, you need to engrain in his mind that there is no more room for that mistake again. If he's your boyfriend and that's all you thnk of him as, then I just think you should move on. Not giving men a second chance often does the trick, and makes them a changed man for the next lady.

Nobody is psychic, we have no idea what he's going to do. However, it's not about whether he's going to cheat again. It's about whether you believe him when he says that he won't cheat anymore.

1) If you believe it, then fogive him and go from there.

2) If you don't believe him, then it's time to break up. No trust = no relationship.



Edit: This question was asked years ago. So my response is for future reference.

I have known of one time cheaters that would never do it again. As Squiffy said follow your heart, --but not your emotions.
Watch for red flags
And most important --Watch how you deal with it if you do give him another chance.
When the trust is broken it can be hard for you to trust him which will make you a wreck always feeling the urge to check up on him and accuse him.
If he is really interested in working it out he should be open to getting some counselling.

Wow... now personally I can't really answer this question on account of experience because I've never had someone do that too me.

But I guess it's a sort of blind love deal, or damn... I'm screwed but I can't go anywhere.

I would say it would depend on how he cheated and I mean its got to be like " She drugged me theres nothing i could do" and he would have to have some serious proof.

But other wise hell no, that's a line you don't cross, ever. He cheats on you then he's not completely for you and if they come back there probably given up on people and you're the last thing he might have a chance for.

I hate to say it cause its gay but there are plenty of better guys out there go read "the True hopeless romanitc" when you can if its out yet, that guy goes to hell and back for the girl of his dreams and ultimalty gets scerwed for it acts like there's no one else in the world and then finds someone awesome 4 months later.