I've Been With My Boyfriend 4 Two Years N We Are In Love... :) But Of Course Lately We've Been Having Some Problems And Im Worried He'll Leave. He Says I Don't Communicate With Him... If We Are On The Phone Or Something I Never Have Anything To Say... he Says He Feels Like He's The Woman Because He Talks A Lot More Than. I Don't Know What To Do!! Im Just The Type Of Person That Usually Does Not Have Anything To Say Other Than "how Was Your Day?"
How Do I Change That?

I know how you feel. Phone conversation is not my favorite, especially when my husband calls me for no reason and just sits there silent.

Find things to talk about. Ask him about work (if he's working), ask him what you guys should do during the weekend, etc. Just find something to talk about, that's what I have to do or my hubby says "why arent you talking."

In any case when the conversation is not going anywhere you can always ask the other person something about themselves or about something they like. People always like to talk about themselves and if you ask about something they like it make you look like you are interested in what they like. If these son't work and you are talking to a member of the opposite sex you can always flirt, especially if you act like you like it.

You could also talk about something you read or saw on television, or something more personal, how you were feeling that day. Happy, sad. Did your boss say something that made you feel bad? Like that.

But I'm wondering if your boyfriend asks you about yourself or makes you feel like he really wants to listen. I noticed the other day when I went over to some friends' house that I always talk a lot when I'm over there because they make me feel interesting! I've never known anyone as nice as they are. Other people can sometimes make me feel dull or dumb, and I tend to get quieter with them. So the other person can draw you out and make you want to talk, or not. I'm not saying it's all his fault, but I'm wondering why he's criticizing you about this instead of helping you talk. He could be asking you questions or acting interested and excited when you DO talk. It sounds like there might be other problems in your relationship besides just this one thing... Is that possible?
Just Asking

Im the same way and so is my boyfriend so sometimes its just complete silence... I go up to him at school to talk to him and I feel like an idiot because I don't have anything to say and he doesn't either so I just kind of stand their. Other times we talk a lot when we can come up with a subject we are both interested in... that's what I think you should do is ask about something he's interested in and go from their talking about it... that way you can talk and it will be something he's interested in and so he won't get bored.. Also if you can try to pick a topic your both interested in

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Originally Posted by nauticalstar420

I know how you feel. Phone conversation is not my favorite, especially when my husband calls me for no reason and just sits there silent.

Find things to talk about. Ask him about work (if he's working), ask him what you guys should do during the weekend, etc. Just find something to talk about, thats what I have to do or my hubby says "why arent you talking."

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I agree. All of the above are great answers. Ask him simple questions, because simple questions can lead to an arrae of long conversations.
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I sometimes ask my boyfriend questions I know the answer to just to start a conversation... like is today Friday, or do we have homework, things like that... And it almost seems like he has to do the same... what is really bad is when we have to go a week without talking and he calls and neither of us says anything. So we talk about how we aren't talking sometimes... just try to talk to him about anything. I'm sure he'll listen