When did her disrespectful behavior start? When she was a child?

I agree - my heart would be broken. I also don't think these things happen out of the blue with no prior history.

Maybe treating her like a Queen made her feel she is/was entitled to be treated like a Queen.

She's an adult - I'd do nothing and see what happens next. She might reach out. She might not. You need to find peace for yourself and your husband, with or without her, whatever that takes.

Actually, she has had the temper problem since childhood. You're probably right; our son (who grew up with her) says we just didn't want to see it, but he knew all along she had these tendencies. You made a good point; we're trying hard to move on now. Thank you so much & have a good one.

I have a 19 year old with a very narrow view point of life. I have relocated her 6 times in the past 2 years, moved her in with my new wife and her two children, tried to educate her, offered her every bit of comfort and quality that I could... it was never good enough. She has since moved in with a friend that eventually asked her to leave, then into a place that she cannot afford and expects me to bail her out. I live 900 miles away from her and cannot drop and run every time she is in trouble. I declined more recently to help her. That got twisted into I don't love her, have chosen my new family over her, wishes that she ends up homeless, etc. etc, etc. her mother (who is raising a grandchild from another child) took her in at one point, m,y daughter was physical with the toddler. Not good. She has now alienated herself from her sister, myself, her mother, and calls my new wife and children horrible names. I give up. I have explained to her many times that her outcome is of her choosing... she cannot accpet that and maintains that is all my fault or the fault of my new wife... am I wrong to decline her help?

I have a 19 year old with a very narrow view point of life. I have relocated her 6 times in the past 2 years. I have moved her in with my new family and there was no gratitude for anything that was done of offered to her. Total chaos, stayed in her room, disrespect to everyone in the house, disregard for their feelings or well being. She stole one of our cars and stayed gone for hours with a lie as an explanaition. We later found out that it was to meet a boy from the internet. She went on the internet and gave out our address to have random and very strange boys show up randomly. She was caught stealing from department stores, declined any family involvement then complained that she was not involved in anything. We have tried to educate her, offered her every bit of comfort and quality that I could... it was never good enough. She has since moved in with a friend that eventually asked her to leave, then into a place that she cannot afford and expects me to bail her out. I live 900 miles away from her and cannot drop and run every time she is in trouble. I declined more recently to help her. That got twisted into I don't love her, have chosen my new family over her, wishes that she ends up homeless, etc. etc, etc. her mother (who is raising a grandchild from another child) took her in at one point, m,y daughter was physical with the toddler. Once again, her mother offered her to stay with her, that too was declined stating that she did not agree with the rules in her house or that things were not going to be the way she wants it to be. Now, she is moving in with some random guy she just met, stating to all of her friends that she had no other choice, all the while; not telling them that she was offered a place to stay, at her mother's. She has now alienated herself from her sister, myself, her mother, and calls my new wife and children horrible names. Said that they are not her family and will never be her family, and that she hates them as well. I give up. I have explained to her many times that her outcome is of her choosing... when I am unable to help her, I hear that she hates me, tells me that I am not her dad and says that I am dead to her. I have tried to stay in contact with her. Selectively, she does not accept my calls, will not even text back over the past 4 years unless she is in need or wants help.

I wouldn't let her move in you have to look after yourself first.