Daughter has never known her biolgical father for 11 years know he wants back!
:confused: I have been in so much emotinal pain the last few weeks and need outsdie opions on how to handle my very hard situation!
When I was 15 I'm became pregnant with my then 15 year old boyfriend because of what happened I was not allowed to see hime very much and things were proably not handled well by my parents but basically my boyfriend stopped coming around slowly till one day he moved out of state, I then moved on and meet a wonderful man whne my daughter was 5months we got togther and he took the responsbiltys that my ex couldn't,
When she was 2 I felt no sense of clousure and felt he should be in her life I get in contact with him, and he tells me he's sorry and that he is still in love with me but I tieel hime I'm on love with my new boyfriend, so he sees her a few time and then takes off again when I ask his mother why he stopped coming to se eher she tells me that its to hard to se eme with another man cause he to inlobe with me and he never comes and see her again,
So I nover tell me daughter of him my husband that I have been with for 10 years now has always bee and her father and has a great relatioonship ,
Here's my problem her bilogical father is back he has mde contact with me and want to be in her life some how and has told me all his reasons for not being around and know eh can't take away the pain and there is not real excuse for leaving and regrets very much and doe not want to miss any more time:
Now how do I handle this I've never tolds my duaghter of him cause I never thaught he would be back my hubby is very upset cause he been rasing her for 1o years and does not want to lose her every one I talk ot outside my family says she needs to know? But my family say screw him?
My question is now how much damage have a done by not ever telling her? Should I tell her now or will there be too much damage my mother say to not tell her and ohwell for him,
But inmy heart I'm afraid of her finding out someother way or when she older and hating me for not telling her he tried to get in contact with her?
I don't want my life to get turned upsdie down and for my childrem to thin different of me and I don't want to hurt my husband, I really have no idea what to do but some part of me say its not wright to keep him form her and to continue to lie!
Any help please would be greatly apriecaited!
Thank you