Do I sent my adult daughter money or not?
I have an adult daughter (Age 30), who is constantly in crisis. She started in the Gay lifestyle about 8 years ago, and has had nothing but trouble since then. She has been in and out of many relationships, no only with other women, but her relationship with me and the rest of her family is very stressed. I was a single mother that raised my daughter and son alone. Since my daughter was about 3 years old, she made it a point to try everything she could with me to get her way. As she go older, I finally had to get outside help, because she was running away and basically doing whatever she wanted to. She never had any problems in school, but at home she treated me very disrespectful and hateful. The therapist told me that I was too permissive, and that I needed to start thinking about myself. Since she was 15, she has considered herself an adult. She just does what she wants without any regards for anyone else. She insisted on living on her own, and for a while did just fine. Then it became one crisis after another. She would move from here to there, and always asking me for money when she would get in a pickle. I basically stopped sending her any about 3 years ago. Then last year, when she ended up in another broken relationship, she got in trouble with the law over some fight or something. She never wants me to know what is going on in her life. I have offered to help by giving her a place to live, but I don't feel that just sending her money is the answer. We had not spoken for over a year, when I finally instigated contact through the e-mail. I thought maybe she had changed, but then it was another "broken" relationship, and more trouble with the law. Next thing I know she is e-mailing me saying that she is going to change her name, and move so no one knows where she is at. I still don't really know where she is at, but yet she called me the other day wanting $100 to help with her pickup payment. I didn't have the money, so now last night she texted me wanting $50 for gas and food. She seems to always play on my guilt, because her father wasn't around for her, and that makes me feel bad. I don't know whether to send the money. Part of me just thinks she is manipulating me again, and I am wondering is maybe she is on drugs. No one in my family has had problems with the law. I just don't know what to do about her. She has hurt me so badly in the past, because she did everything she could to gain control over me. I hope someone can give me some advise.