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My mother died 6 years ago and I can't to this day get it out of my head I still cry over it what can I do to make things better for myself?

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother.
To you have any other close family members you can open up to?

Have you ever considered counseling?

Just remember all the good memories and realise that she would want you to be happy.

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Originally Posted by pleasehelpme101

my mother died 6 years ago and i can't to this day get it out of my head i still cry over it what can i do to make things better for myself??

I understand perfectly what you are going through. I am with you in your time of sorrow. Truly, there can be no "closure" when it concerns a person you Love. You simply can't "close" the door on a departed loved one ever, for they remain a very important part of your life into eternity. That is what many do not understand. I have made a serious study of the Afterlife and as sure as the Bible states there is a Hereafter with our loved ones who reside there, there are characteristics for knowing what happens to them and how they communicate with us, many times on a daily basis. Many, unfortuantely, are not open to this reality. For those with a broader, more open mind, there are places that seriously discuss this aspect of LIFE because truly, there is no "death".

Be assured that your dear mother lives on! She visits you often but now, in her new life, her vibrations are very high compared to yours, that is why you are probably not able to hear or see her as you did when she was incarnate. Know that your mother loves you very much and always will! Love never dies even when our physical body does!

For more on this fascinating subject, you may wish to visit the following:

After-Death Communication - Prayer Wave

Bill and Judy Guggenheim - after-death communications

There is an EXCELLENT organization in New York that helps those who are bereaved! You might wish to contact them for further information.

Hope for Bereaved, Inc.
4500 Onondaga Blvd.
Syracuse, New York 13219-3329

Telephone: 315-475-9675 (could be long distance depending on where you are calling from. Same with fax.)

Fax: 315-475-3298

Website: Hope for the Bereaved, Syracuse, NY - Welcome

E-mail: [email protected]

People can subscribe to their wonderful monthly newsletter also that is full of great information!

Please know that you are loved by many also! We will be praying for comforting times for you during this experience that is part of life.

I am so sorry for your loss. Friday is the anniversary of the death of my step-mom. I cannot hang any of her pictures in my new house b/cs it saddens me so. When I start crying I remind myself I am grieving for my loss that she is no longer suffering. I know God had a plan when he took her.

I know some people feel that if they stop grieving it means they are forgetting. I think if you stop grieving it makes room for happier memories. I like to think about her laugh or how she would trick my dad into thinking new expensive clothes had been around for awhile or how she would ALWAYS take something green as a dish to pass.

If you are a member of a church talk to your pastor and some churches even offer free services even if you are not a member. Contact your local Funeral Home and they can give you advice on reading material and/or local support groups. If she was a member of an organization donate something in her memory or if she felt strongly about something get involved for the cause (if you argee!) Since my step-mom passed we have raised over $3000 for the American Cancer Society in her name. My friend committed suicide and his Mother is allowing his image to be used locally with the suicide hotline. These are just some ways people have worked on their healing.

Unfortunately, it is not a cookie cutter process. Give it time.

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Originally Posted by pleasehelpme101

my mother died 6 years ago and i can't to this day get it out of my head i still cry over it what can i do to make things better for myself??

I am sorry for your pain. I can't say I understand because Ive only experienced my mother being sick and suffering from dementia. But one thing I can tell you from experience sweetie is to just take one day at a time. I know that sounds clique but literally take one day at a time and the days you can't take it by the day take it one hour, minute and or second at a time. I did 10 years in prison for saving my life. And that is how I survived. I went from a sheltered person with no prior record and was placed in that environment. I said that to say this or to share with you how I survived. Take one second at a time. Much love and respect. Continue to hold your head up.