:mad: Hi, I am 53 years old male and my girlfriend is 55 years. I am very active sexualy and she started to loose interest in sex. She would not let me touch her breast or vagina. She also does not and can not achieve orgasm. I have had several conversations with her and wanted to help her to jointly have sex but her answer all the time find yourself an 18 years old girl, I can not handle your sexual habbit.
I understand that age is major factor with women and sex, but is it really that bad that a woman from age 55 on ward does not want or care about sex at all, I find it impossible.

We don't want to see any doctor but to solve this issue alone.

Can any one help and if you have questions please let me know.

Thanks

I would strongly recommend the two of you see a sex therapist to help with this issue. You didn't say how long you have been together; but, from what I am hearing you say is that she has never enjoyed sex or had an orgasm. I wouldn't want to have sex either if I never had an orgasm. These things can be overcome. I am new to this forum so I especially want to be careful about how I answer this question on the forum. Barbara

Yes, you can solve the problem alone ( and I do mean alone) since it will not get better most likely without help.

Getting older can often just make sex that much more fun, I am in my 50's and except for a short run in my 40's that medication helped, I am back better than ever in my life.

And yes, while I just find it so hard to believe many women see sex as a chore, something they have to do once a month or so, and have never had a orgasm.

But it can also be a change in hormone levels, a change in medication, or heck maybe she just does not want sex ( there are some that don't)

You did of course not mention did she previously have a active sex life, how long have you been with her, how long since she broke up from past relatonship.
Or how often you were wanting sex, three times a day may chase off a lot of people, three times a week could be resonable for someone your age.

I could tell you stories about some of those frisky 70 plus year olds I call on.

many thanks for the advice so far. We have been together for 6 years. I can never tell if she had orgasm or not, but on occasion I suspect that she had. I like to have sex almost every day, 5-7 days a week. I have noticed her a decline in her sexual desire started three years ago, to the point now, she does not want me to even touch her legs, very strange behavior. 50+ years is not over the hell or life is about to finish. I just don't know how to help her and help myself. Many times complain about the size of my (... ) she claims too big for her and does not want full penetration. On the contrary to my x girl, she was much small in physical size than the present one, and she had not problem with penis size, on the contrary she enjoyed it emensly.
I am thinking about just to drop her and move on with my life.

Sex at the age of 55 is the best to have orel sex and due to the non stiffness you may have to use some medea to errect and have sex , this is the best age to forget the whole world and immurse in sex .

You have reached the fag end of the life , who knows when , where , how , we may end the life , but , there is a saying , like procreation is the majour recreation, not with yuour partner, with your girl friend, this is the second phase of your life nothing to loose , bt every thing to gain.

If the OP hasn't figured it out in 5 years since the original post, I would hope he would have come back by now.

Please watch dates when responding.

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