I'm venturing into an area with a friend of mine that's been building for some time. I'm a straight acting guy of 42 years of age, and have an older gay friend of about 55, he's been trying to get me to go on a date with him for some time.

He made a pass at me last week while doing some things around my house and I allowed if to go deeper then even I thought I ever would, now we've been talking about sex together, but with a date in there also.

I know it's going to come down to more than a kiss at the door, the imagination can run wild in this, a lot of good things, but much to be careful of, I do not want to miss anything and live or not to regret it.

Any thoughts?

Thanks

I would treat it like ANY date--don't do anything you're not comfortable doing.

What your comfort zone is, though, is really up to you.

Well is this a real "date" or merely a sex meet up. You need to clearify what each of you are talking about. If you are both already talking about having sex, it seems you are past that first date stage already??

Would you be considering unsafe sex?
Then I think you are VERY misguided. I would back-up on the sex and get tested (both of you) and know each others "history" and HIV status WAY BEFORE the sex discussion/activity.

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Originally Posted by Xrayman

would you be considering unsafe sex?
then I think you are VERY misguided. I would back-up on the sex and get tested (both of you) and know each others "history" and HIV status WAY BEFORE the sex discussion/activity.

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Hi and thanks. I did make sure we were both clean and tested. We did go safely with condoms.

I'm feeling a bit guilty as it was my first time, not sure it was for me or not. A little sore too.

Need to think things through.