Is my girlfriend BI? Why would she Lie?
So the quick question is My GF Bi? I have asked her and she says no... "I love the cock" is her standard reply. There is a lot of background (I feel) to understanding this completely...
My girlfriend was sexually abused by her father when she was a teen. Her father kissed her and touched her once. That's all it takes. As a teen my girlfriend dated women. So I said you BI then. She replied with no. "I have never let a women go down on me." I said fine. She says she is only attracted to beauty. When she sees a beautiful women she feels compelled to them. Though, she has gone down on a women. She also makes out with women. To me this sounds like she's BI. She still holds that she is not. Her relationships with women were all in High school. She does still enjoy making out with women today though. My GF doesn't see the value in kissing. I jokingly call her the kissing whore. She talks about this guy that she kissed and that guy. She just likes kissing is what she says. Not a big deal to me. Before my time. I feel that she holds this view because she was abused - speculation... I should note that I am only the 5th guy she has had sex with. At 26 that is really rare, especially since she is very sexual and in my opinion a 10. Three of the four relationships she's had have all been long term (2+ yrs). And two of these guys are still friends. I feel this is again is another byproduct of her abuse...
We have been together 6 months now. We went out this weekend partying. We were dancing on a pole at a club and other girls joined us. One of them started dancing with my GF while I was dancing behind her too. My GF starting getting really physical with her. Dancing up on her, pulling her hair, etc. So I pulled her away. I have always questioned her sexuality and this has really brought it back to light. I could see that if I did not pull her away, my GF and this other would have started making out. My GF got upset saying that she was having fun. Later, she said that it was just to turn me on. I said it didn't turn me on and I didn't like it one bit and it was upsetting me. If she has attraction to another women and she makes out with her in my book that's cheating. To make her understand I asked her how would she feel if I made out with a man in front of her. She got the point, but I still question weather or not she is BI. If she is there is a different set of rules that apply to our relationship. Maybe she doesn't value kissing because of the abuse in her life? To me there was an obvious attraction to the women on the dance floor. Why would she lie? In 6 months we have never gone out without the other. I am worried that her lackadaisical approach to women with me is so that that she can have them on the side when she does go out with out me. Her defense is a women has never gone down on her but yet women have fingered her in the past. Should I scratch this and move on? Thoughts?