I am a 20 year old female and I have never had intercourse and have been attempting (well my boyfriend has been attempting) to get me off without actually having full-on intercourse. Unfortunately to both of our dismay nothing seems to work. He has had a considerable amount of experience in this arena and feels frustrated and his lack of ability to get me to orgasm. When he touches me, I often feel the sensation like I have to pee or slight pain. Sometimes it even tickles a little bit, but nothing remotely like pleasure. I have tried masturbation, but cannot get off in the conventional way (using only my own hands or a vibrator). I have found a method that works, but it's not something that can work with two people. I was wondering if I am in some way messed up or if he is just in the wrong general area or if there is something else that I can do to get off. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.:eek:

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Originally Posted by SecretSam87

I am a 20 year old female and I have never had intercourse and have been attempting (well my boyfriend has been attempting) to get me off without actually having full-on intercourse. Unfortunately to both of our dismay nothing seems to work. He has had a considerable amount of experience in this arena and feels frustrated and his lack of ability to get me to orgasm. When he touches me, I often feel the sensation like I have to pee or slight pain. Sometimes it even tickles a little bit, but nothing remotely like pleasure. I have tried masturbation, but cannot get off in the conventional way (using only my own hands or a vibrator). I have found a method that works, but it's not something that can work with two people. I was wondering if I am in some way messed up or if he is just in the wrong general area or if there is something else that I can do to get off. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.:eek:

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I know what you are saying, many people cannot climax in the usaul way-this is because of our own sexual training-eg. Many men ejaculate too quickly because they trained themselves to do it quick to avoid discovery by parents etc. many girls masturbate lying down face forward for the same reason-some girls rub their vulvas against pillows etc. all these techniques work well by themselves, but when a partner is involved, well problems arise-you may need help with your "technique" to get your partner to assist you doing your thing, then progressively try with him doing it all by himself for you...

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Do you materbate? I'm telling you right now, if you can't do it yourself, why should you expect him to be able to do it? A lot of girls think masterbating is GROSS or SICK or unlady like, but who says you need to tell anyone that you touch yourself? Masturbation like sex is a private thing so lock your door, get a sexy movie/book/magazine/picture and go at it. I swear it'll help..
It worked for me.