My husband like to dress in underwear and bra and to find out he has been taken some my clothes to wear and he has lied about it hides the stuff I trow it out he buys more even after every time is going to quit I need held with this what do I do

Your husband has a fetish. So you can do one of three things.

1) embrace the fetish (this is a mild one) and go shopping with him and get him his own that will fit properly.
2) get him counseling that might be able to get him to control his urges
3) divorce him

Throwing out any lingerie he might purchase isn't the answer. You either go along, try to change him or leave him.

He shouldn't be taking your clothing without your permission nor should he be lying. Other than that what really bothers you about his fetish?

Have you talked with him about why he likes women's underwear? Have you tried to see it from his viewpoint or have you been trying to force him to fit your ideal of how a man should dress?

If he wants to change for himself, then counseling is probably the way to go. If you want him to change, then you will only keep repeating the cycle you seem caught up in. We cannot make others change for us anymore than another person can make us change. If you and your husband cannot find a compromise, then you will have to decide which means more to you-a man you love(d) or a few pieces of clothing?

Is there any way he could help you understand his needs? Would you be willing to give him a chance? If you are, I suggest setting a boundary of you won't throw away his things if he leaves yours alone. I also suggest that you find out if it is the thought of being in women's clothing he likes or if it is the materials and fit. If it is the style and materials, then you may be able to compromise by finding men's clothing in silk, satin, etc.

If you aren't willing to compromise, then perhaps separation and divorce would be better than tearing each other apart.

You asked this question a while ago so I don't know if you still check this but here goes... me and my wife have been together for almost 3 years now I too have a fetish with women's clothing it was hard to tell my wife about it because of the fear of rejection and she was skeptical at first but agreed to try for almost 2 years I have been dressing at night for her and she would make me up here recently she has had second thoughts it has made her feel that I need it to have a fulfilled sex life the truth is that it is not the clothing as much as the attention she was giving yes the cloths do feel good and I prefer panties and thongs over boxers because of the feel. It really hurt when she told me she wonted me to stop but I understood and let the subject lie for a couple days I have asked her what she is conferrable with me wearing and this is a question that you will have to ask yourself if you really love him... is he willing to change because if not he won't no matter what you do my family tried everything to stop mine which started around age 10 they sent me to see a counselor with no success on there part it just made me feel even more rejected and I hid my things better I hope you see this and hope it helps best of luck to you both