Io I am new on this site and I hope to hear from some of you,:p first I am 19 and I have just started to have sex. But problem is I don't know how to tell if she is or has had an orgasm. Question being how can I tell if she is really having an orgasm of not.:D

I don't think you can feel anything; but my hubby tells me that sometimes he can feel that I'm having an orgasm. Of course I tell him when, and he said that he feels his penis really hot and like I'm squeezing it. He doesn't feel this all time, I guess just when he pays attention.
Kinkyfunlove, I guess you'll just have to trust your partner on that one, if she says she is then enjoy it.
Take Care :)

I think a lot of it has to do with how big the orgasm. My g/f normally tells me when she has one, but I can only feel it, when its big enough for her to not be able to tell me. For the most part though, I don't think a guy could know

This is going to sound silly, but it is true. There is only one way to tell if she doesn't tell you. The tip of her tongue will get cold during orgasm. It has to do with blood flow and the circulatory system during female orgasm.

Told you it would sound silly. :p

It really depends. My girlfriend is very vocal, and I can tell when she has an orgasm because she grabs things and screams into pillows, and I can feel her vagina contract. And after the orgasm she's out of breath and really tired. My opinion on this is, if you don't think she had one, she probably didn't. Fake moaning is really obvious too.

I suggest you go to your local library or video store and rent When Harry Met Sally with Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan. Look for the luncheonette scene.

Sometimes you can tell and sometimes there is no mistake and sometimes you can't. Females in different ways and methods. The coolest method that I used once was "aural sex". I said " for me" and she did. Repeated the command about 10 times and it worked every time until she said to stop doing that. That particular one was an obvious wave of quivers that were easily seen in the thighs and legs. The more normal one is that the penis feels an involuntary contraction of the vagina.

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You can't always know for sure. Many Ladies have a climax that rocks their world and you can tell by the way they breath and how wet they are. Some Ladies don't allow their climax to grow to the point they explode and for that type of Lady all you can do is trust her that she is telling you the truth and not acting.

Just do the best you can and give her 110%, if you do that, you have nothing to worry about. Listen to her and do what makes her happy.

Hint... Foreplay is the most important part of love Making. A Lady gets excited mentally so do the little things that make her happy in and out of bed.

Dennis777

Every woman has different signals. Just make sure she is comfortable enough to be honest with you and don't fake them. When you know each other well enough you will learn to to detect them as well as give them.

I think you should now how quickely your girl arouse , because after that it won't take much time for them to have orgasm, when your are inside her, she will gnerally close her eyes and if she is holding something, will release quickely after orgasm.
Try to hold yourself inside for longer time, and she will tell you she is doneor exhausted

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Originally Posted by kinkyfunlove

io i am new on this site and i hope to hear from some of you,:p first i am 19 and i have just started to have sex. but problem is i dont know how to tell if she is or has had an orgasm. question being how can i tell if she is really having an orgasm of not.:D

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You generally, most likely won't be able to physically feel anything. But if you can see her face, it makes it much easier to tell. That, and certain sounds like the traditional sound of voiced rapid breathing is an easy signal that its happenning. But the majority of women do not orgasm during penetration anyway, just to let you know.

Who cares? Ok. Just kidding...

The simple answer to your question is: Ask her. Don't try to figure it out for yourself. I like to ask my wife if there's anything else she'd like me to do for her. Her response, and her smile tell me everything I need to know. ;-)

My boyfriend told me that he heard on the radio that the nipples will get hard. That's how he can tell

The eyes.