My boyfriend of 8 months is always trying to tape us having sex, but I don't feel comfortable enough to let him (I have trust issues with him) so I always say no. I went on his iPod while he was at work and saw that he video taped us having full on sex for 30 min, and I was completely unaware of it. What should I do?

Delete it and break up with him.

I agree with teastalk - erase it and then erase him from your life.

He's fully demonstrated what a non-trustworthy loser he is.

OMG!
This guy is crazy! How can he act like that?
This is an intervention in your private life.
If you say no it's NO!
It's seems he's doing this with all the girls he's sleeping with just to have a collection!
Erase the video as soon as you can and FORGET THIS GUY!

Taping you behind your back? I wonder what else he does behind your back?

How can you still trust him?

I would never have anything to do with him again ever, let alone consider having sex.

Steal his Ipod, and destroy it. Protect yourself dear, right freakin' now.

Thanks everyone. And yes I deleted it right away.. I then had a feeling he put it on his computer, sure enough he did. Deleted it there as well

Something like that would make me loose complete trust in a person (and you said you had trust issues with him in the first place) now I've been taped during sex but it was consensual and I have the only copy not him. I think maybe you and him should break up because honestly goodness knows what else he's done

A lesson learned, if you have trust issues and did not trust him to start with, you don't need to be with, and certainly having sex with someone you don't trust.

But at this point you can only hope he does not have other copies or did not post it on some adult web site.

What are your ages? Personally if this was a minor I'd call the cops and press charges.

I hope you have enough selfrespect to dump the j**k,there is no excuse for what he did -leave him- n o w.

Wow! I hope you broke up with him! NO SECOND CHANCES! NO NO NO!! Trust me! It gets WORSE! It may seem it gets better but you end up allowing and making excuses for more disgusting behaviour until you don't even recognise yourself or your life. Speaking from experience. PLEASE don't trust him again

I really wonder how many other things he does behind your back that you won't approve of.

At this point, what could possibly convince you to stay in this relationship?

Absolutely no good for you.

What a crafty, sneaky, untrustworthy, sneaky creep to mention but a few.


Dump him now, he's no good for you.

Yup get rid of this guy! I have a few choice words to describe him that I'd inform him of as I walked out the door.

You can charge him even if your not a minor anyway! He has to have your consent to video tape regardless. Or have survelliance stickers in the room lol

What an absolute creep :eek:

He may also have copied it to a disc , I certainly wouldn't put it past someone like him , so I'd do some searching if I were you.

Something like this happened here before where I live, a sports team video taped one of there team mates having sex with this one girl, they were hiding in the closet. The ended up facing charges. I am not sure what all went down and who won. But charges were pressed. I am in Canada if that makes a difference.

You can tape him masturbating(I'm sure he does it enough), or say having a bowel movement, and threaten to send it to the world via the internet. Us this as a safeguard for any other tapes he may have.
And leave him. Hopefully in a bind.

Guys like him give the rest of us a bad name.

I hope you have a six foot six brother. With a big dog, a fast truck, and a bad temper.

Good luck on your next choice of mates.

Even though retaliation sounds extremely tempting, I wouldn't stoop to his sneaky, creepy level.

What you should do, if you haven't done it already, is videotape yourself telling him what a jerk he is and letting him know that you no longer want his revolting persona to darken your door or your bed again.

Then send it to his cellphone or email it to him...

Sort of like a 21st century 'Dear John' letter.