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  • Jan 29, 2009, 07:01 PM
    Anne1956
    My husband is a crackhead
    My husband is a crack head. He is now using it daily and does not come home from work. Straight from work he goes to a very dangerous part of Jacksonville Florida and smokes crack He comes home like 2 3 am if he comes home at all. He knows I know and does not care. I have been told to leave while I still can. Is this true? I really know nothing about this drug. He is 58 years old.
  • Jan 29, 2009, 07:27 PM
    N0help4u

    Yes you are best of leaving because it is an addiction and given the choice between the addiction and your love----you lose!
    The only way you can possibly get anywhere with him is to leave and tell him the only way you will come back is if he goes to rehab. Even then most crack heads go through rehab to get cleaned out and then start all over once they get out.
    You are wasting your time and life if you think he will change, Don't sit around waiting on that.
  • Jan 29, 2009, 09:54 PM
    talaniman

    Quote:

    I have been told to leave while I still can. Is this true?
    Yes it is.
    Quote:

    I really know nothing about this drug.
    There is the INTERNET, and Narcotics Anonymous.
    Quote:

    He is 58 years old.
    Age doesn't matter.
  • Jan 30, 2009, 05:41 AM
    tickle

    If he is addicted to crack, then he is probably addicted to some other substances as well, possibly alcohol and marijauna. A deadly cocktail.
  • Jan 30, 2009, 06:23 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    Yes leave, he has chosen a drug over you and will soon be spending all of the money on the drug, he will start selling things in the house and stealing money from you.

    Lies of all sort are mixed in.

    Leave before it gets dangerous for you also.
  • Jan 30, 2009, 03:38 PM
    Anne1956
    All of you, Thanks for answering me. He does drink heavy and I have smelled pot on him. He came home 3 am this morn with eyes bugging out of his head. He is so thin now. He is just skin on bone. All he eats is chips and dip. SOmeone else has said the word danger. What kind of danger could I be in?
  • Jan 30, 2009, 04:05 PM
    tickle

    What kind of danger could you be in ? Figure it out ! Your life is in jeopardy Anne for heavens sake. He will not know he is beating you to death.
  • Jan 30, 2009, 04:39 PM
    N0help4u

    What kind of danger?
    He decides that his pay isn't enough to keep him high enough so he decides to 'trade' your TV or stereo for more drugs. You try and stop him to ask what the heck he is up to and he punches you and shoves you to the ground then possibly kicks you. His drug(s) rule and he is no longer in control of him or his decisions. If you confront him about his drug problem he will just deny it and make it out like you are the problem for not believing him.
    You need to get out asap, there is no future with a crack head they spiral your life downward until you have NOTHING.
  • Jan 30, 2009, 07:44 PM
    twinkiedooter

    Photos show cocaine horror

    Here is a site that shows you what younger people look like after they have been on crack for a few years.

    You didn't say how long your husband has been involved with crack. Since he's 58 now, most likely he will be dead very soon if he continues with this drug abuse. Cocaine and crack contains toxic chemicals used to make the crack. These chemicals will literally rot all the teeth out of your head as well as "eat" your body from the inside out. And this includes your mind.

    Yes, you are definitely in danger. As NoHelp said he could beat you to death and not really know what he's going.

    And since he's adding other drugs to his repitoire - he's looking at attending his own funeral probably within a 3-4 year period tops.

    You probably won't be able to stop him as he's rather old to be dabbling in such a putrid drug.

    Yes, find somewhere else to live and take all your belongings while you still have them. He will definitely help himself to whatever he can pawn or sell to buy more and more drugs.
  • Jan 30, 2009, 09:36 PM
    codyman144

    Ask him to go to drug rehab if he will not leave right away. Listen to the people above he is dangerous unless he stops forever.

    Someone wise once told me there are three good reasons for divorce: Addiction, Adultery and Abuse. You deserve a husband that has his act together certainly not a crack head
  • May 20, 2012, 03:54 PM
    mjsayswakeup
    My husband is a crackhead. His binge was for several weeks. He never laid a hand on me until his binge. He woke the kids up yelling at me and throwing things around the house because I confronted him. He choked me in front of my 7 yr, old daughter then peeled out towards the porch with her on it. THEY WILL LIE ABOUT EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING. Love does not matter. He was clean for 6 yrs. But always changed and never happy. DO NOT STAY. I wish I left sooner we have nothing left. Although we lived separately he got away with it for a minute and pawned anything we had left and spent thousands. I got my lights shut off. I went to ask him to get help one more time because he pleaded to me on the phone. When I got there he was the crackhead and came out at me. His crackwhore called the cops and because it was at his place I spent the night in jail.
    I am going to counseling.
    I filed for a divorce.
    I am scared he will get visitations because he is cleaning up and fooling his parents so they may help him get a lawyer.
    I LET CRACK RUIN MY LIFE for too Long. If you love yourself LEAVE.
  • Apr 29, 2013, 03:53 PM
    Sick of it
    I have been fighting this battle with my crackhead husband for seven years. I have left about three times but always come back because he promises to quit. He has taken everything from me. I spent my whole inheritance on a business and a house with him which I lost. I spent thirty days in jail because he got me involved in a theft case. I was in two car accidents and one that almost killed me because of the way he drives. He stole all my mother's jewelry that I received when she died and also all the jewelry that he bought me and used it to buy drugs. He always says he will change and then goes right back to using again. I am ready to leave for good this time. I have wasted so many good years of my life and I know this will go on until he finally dies from a heart attack or something else. Do not believe that they will change. They will drag you into their addiction even if you never use drugs. It is a nightmare that never ends.

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