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pinkcat · Aug 9, 2006, 02:52 PM

Hi
Recently every time me and my boyfriend have sex afterward it really hurts and can't have sex for until about 3 to 4 days afterwards :( is there somethink wrong with me? And has this happened to anyone else before if it had what did you do to stop it?

Thanks

Wildcat21 · Aug 9, 2006, 09:44 PM

Well, does he warm you up - do you guys use lots of four play??

Are ready to take him?? Women can't just immediately take a guy. It takes time for you gals to warm up.

Oral helps a ton as does lots of hand stimulation first.

PLEASE don't tell he jumps right in - wam-bam-thank you - ma'am?? I hope to hel he isn't a dumb azz??

True sex takes time... slow... lots to do before the deed... unless it's the occasional quicky which most wome ndon't enjoy.

Oh yeah... how old are you??

Oh yeah... personal question - are you wet when he enters??

I recommend a lot of the jells out there. Like the K-Y Warming Jell.

kp2171 · Aug 9, 2006, 10:23 PM

As mentioned above... first thing is are you stimulated enough for him to enter you without it hurting. If you are too dry, it can hurt. Some women, even with foreplay, still need some extra lubrication occasionally, and some more often.

Can he get you off orally? If so, have him bring you to that point. Then when he enters you, you should be lubricated enough for it not to hurt. If you are lucky you might be able to work in another orgasm. Bonus.

If you are lubricated and it doesn't hurt on entry, then does it hurt later during sex or only after? Do you think it is from friction? Even with proper lubrication, longer sex will still cause friction that might cause you to hurt...

I know its hard to be really open about this maybe, but exactly how and where do you hurt? Is it in the vaginal canal or more outside by the labia? Does it feel like a rug burn (friction) after or something different?

Wildcat21 · Aug 10, 2006, 07:41 AM

If it still hurts after lubrication, see your doctor immediately.

I have a feeling the joker you're with doesn't get forepaly.

Captain_Brown · Aug 10, 2006, 07:52 AM

Sex hurts everyone the first time.

Krs · Aug 10, 2006, 07:53 AM

She didn't state it was her first time thou :rolleyes:

pinkcat · Aug 10, 2006, 09:32 AM

No it's not my first time.
I'm 18 yes we do foreplay quite a lot of it as well. It's only afterwards it hurts and if we try to have sex again I can't cause it's painful, the pain is in the vaginal canal.

Krs · Aug 10, 2006, 09:34 AM

If this has persisted I would go see a gynea...

Wildcat21 · Aug 10, 2006, 09:35 AM

Yes - go to the doctor.

pinkcat · Aug 10, 2006, 09:36 AM

Go see what?

Krs · Aug 10, 2006, 09:41 AM

a gynea = gyneacologist.
You know what that is?

Wildcat21 · Aug 10, 2006, 10:39 AM

They put gynacologist = Doctor.

Does he use a condum? Maybe the brand of condom?

Are u lubed?

pinkcat · Aug 10, 2006, 10:45 AM

No he used to but I'm on the pill now so he stopped

Wildcat21 · Aug 10, 2006, 10:52 AM

Pill can change your chemistry...

Go see the doctor asap.

J_9 · Aug 10, 2006, 11:10 AM

Pinkcat,

It has been recommended that you go to a gynocologist, this is a doctor for women only, they specialize in the reproductive organs of women. They can help you with your particular situation.

The pill can dry up lubrication that you may have experienced before.

There is another possibility, but it is quite rare. I know many readers will laugh at this, but it does happen.

Sometimes when parterns are new at sex that he actually goes into the urethral orifice rather than the vaginal orifice. I know it sounds funny, but it does happen. This will cause the pain that you are talking about.

If this is definitely not the case for you then you do need to go see the doctor to make sure there is nothing more serious happening.

Good Luck.

bhattim · Aug 10, 2006, 11:18 AM

OB/GYN - OBSTETRICIAN AND GYNEAGOLOGIST - they specialize in female sexual anatomy, it could be because he is bigger than you are used to but I do not think you should wait to see the doctor or teen clinics there could be multiple reasons, but maybe you can tell him to be gentle

pinkcat · Aug 10, 2006, 11:18 AM

OK thanks
I hope it isn't any think serious

J_9 · Aug 10, 2006, 11:20 AM

Probably nothing serious at all, but we want to make sure you are okay. Just make an appointment and keep us posted.

pinkcat · Aug 10, 2006, 11:21 AM

OK I will I'll let you no when I've gone to the doctors :)

ladyjoker91 · Jan 28, 2009, 06:52 PM

Pain=Pleassure. He might think you're the "Like it rough" kind of girl. *Silly Nilly* Tell him to slow it down... He might also be to BIG for you sweety.