One of my closest guy friends has been acting a little differently and I'm not
Sure how I feel about him. All of a sudden I find myself wanting to talk to him
Whether it be online or in class all the time and I smile whenever I see him
Walk in the door because I know he's going to make me laugh throughout the class
And brighten my day. He is a flirt, but now its gotten a little more than just
"friendly flirting" you could say.
I've known him since 7th grade and we've been in at least one class together
Every year since freshman year of HS (were seniors now). He always makes fun of
Me and jokes around with me, some people may take that as flirting. Last year,
Even our teacher noticed and asked our other friend if we were going out! (we
Weren't and never have) he sits right behind me in class this year and will
Sometimes play with my hair. And a few days ago when he was absent, my teacher asked if I
Knew he where he was, when I said I didn't know (I did know,he was at a v-ball
Tournament, I just said the easiest answer) another friend who sits right next
To us joked "why not isn't he your boyfriend?" I'm starting to worry that
People think its me trying to get him and flirting with him but its not.
We both play volleyball and he wants me to go to every one of his games. I
Missed one home game last week and I had to make him brownies so he would
Forgive me and he now expects me at every home game to watch him play (I've only
Seen his girlfriend at one of his games and it was last year btw). We are always
Partners for projects. Last year, us and our other friend had to make a music
video for a project and we did it to "love story" by Taylor swift. I was
"Juliet" and he was "Romeo" in the video. Then this year, he left me a voice
Mail on my phone at 1am and he was singing the song! He had no idea what the
Lyrics were but he was saying "i am Romeo and you are Juliet" over and over and
"its a love story baby just say yes". When it came up a few days ago, at first
He claimed it was his friend singing but then when it was brought up again a
Couple days later, he didn't deny doing it and joked that it was "irrelevant to
what we were talking about" Him and his girlfriend have been going out for awhile, last
Year when they started dating we all thought he had had a girlfriend just so he could
Have a girlfriend but there still together and on face book there "engaged" and there's a
Bunch of pics of them together. Why would he do all this and act the way he is
If he has a girlfriend??

One more thing: he asked me to ask our another friend if she thought he was hot,
When I asked why he said " I like to know these things" and he jokes around
Saying hook me up with your little sister. Sooo confusing.
My friend thinks he likes me, she says the way he talks and acts with me and his
Girlfriend are completely different. I would never ever do anything to break up there
Relationship.

What do you think? Sorry this is so long but I'm just confused and not sure if
Its just innocent friend stuff or something more.

The only person who can tell you why he is acting the way he is ,is him-so asking him might give you some explanations.

If it bothers you,I think you should let him know.
Like you said,his got a girlfriend,so he is off limits.

Be careful. There's one around every corner! Ask him what's going on!

I guess the reason why he acts that way is because you let him. If you let him do the things he does to you. He might think that its OK and there's nothing wrong. Sounds like he does likes you, but he also likes his girlfriend, you should give him restrictions, and let him know that your only a friend not someone that he can flirt around. He is affecting your emotions and the more you let him do that, the more you will start liking him. And try not going to all his home games that's his girlfriends job not yours. Be a friend don't be that other women. You want him to respect you as a friend not someone that he can go and starts thinking if he can have friends with benefits with. Start making some ground rules and stop the flirting. I could be wrong think logical not emotion.

Leave him alone!

Sorry my dear, but your letting this romantic sounding fool set you up to be his next romance. That's what he cares about, how far his rap will get him, and unless you put this would be player in his place you will find that falling for his crap will get you hurt.

First: Thank you for everyone's advice but I just want to make clear that I am NOT encouraging anything by flirting back with him. If I am, its not nearly to the extent that he is and I usually am completely oblivious/unaware that I'm even doing it. I respect the fact he has a girlfriend, and I would never do anything to break them up or anything of that nature. I agree that I do let these things he doing happen, I don't know why, I've always been a people pleaser which is why I agreed to his request to go to his games (im not going to every single one) and that's why I made brownies for him ONE time when I did miss. It was brownies, or "no friendship". Im sure he was kidding, but you never know with him.
Lastly, He and his girlfriend are Mormon, I'm a christian. So I don't know if the whole "player" thing still stands or maybe that's why if he does like me, he hasn't tried to pursue anything.

Oh and today, when he gave me back the pen I let him use, he called me "babe" (here you go babe, thanks babe)




What "friend" does that?

Look I call people sweetie all the time.. It doesn't mean I'm after them. How old are you and how old is this guy?

That's true, he's just NEVER said anything like that to me before. Were both 17, I'll be 18 next month. I know I sound like a 10 year old asking about this stuff.. embarassing. It's just really confusing I don't know what to do and I'm worried about how other people see us. I mean if TEACHERS are asking if were a couple, when all we've ever done is talk to each in class and work on projects isn't that kind of odd?

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No you're fine. You asked for help and we're trying I would ask him how

He feels about you and ask him to be honest. Oh to be seventeen again. Be careful now. Don't let him use you and I think that may be his intention.

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One of my closest guy friends has been acting differently around me and I think I'm starting to have feelings for him. He has a girlfriend, but the way he acts around me makes me wonder whether he has a girlfriend just to have one, or if loves her but has strong feelings for me also. I would never to anything to threaten there relationship, they've been going out for awhile and I respect that.
Here are some examples:

1. We've had a class together since freshman year (were both seniors) and always sit by each other and do projects together.
2. He sits behind me this year, sometimes he'll play with my hair or write his name on my shoulder. He jokes around with me a lot and teases me, we make each other laugh
3. He waits for me after class so we can walk out together, he tries to make it not noticiable but sometimes it pretty obvious.
4. Last year, our teacher asked our other friend if we were going out ( he had his girlfriend at that time too) and I think our teacher this year thinks were dating too, sometimes he'll look at us talking and just smile and when he was absent, our teacher asked ME if I knew where he was. I said I don't know ( I really did know I just said the easiest answer) then our friend jokingly said why not, isn't he your boyfriend?
5. We did a group project last year, and we had to make a music video. We did ours to love story by taylor swift. I was juliet and he was romeo. This year, I get a voicemail from him at 1AM singing I am romeo and you are juliet over and over and it's a love story baby just say yes. He's mormon, so it wasn't a drunk call. When I brought it up, he would joke around or change the subject.
6.We both play volleyball and he wants me to go to all his home games to watch him play. I missed 2 and both times, he said he was so upset with and kept looking for me in the stands. He says it in a joking way, but apart of me feels like he may be serious.
7.We talk all the time in class, and online too about anything at all.
8. He called me babe a few times the other day, he's never said anything or called me anything like that before

He's always been a flirt, and I try not to encourage anything but it has never been to this extent. What does this mean?! Is there something deeper going on or is it not the big a deal?

Big red flag.

Think of it this way, if he behaves this way with his current girlfriend, what makes you think he will be any different if you became his girlfriend?

Not exactly relationship material to me!

I doubt seriously if you will get different responses by starting another post about the same thing. But I do have a question. Why do you allow a guy with a girlfriend to get you all hot and bothered?

As another poster stated, what makes you think that when he gets tired of you, player guy won't have another girl to take your place really fast? He is a player, and he goes from one female to another so fast, you can't keep up.

That's right he is a player, his religion has nothing to do with it, so what's the deal with you blindly falling for a guy who takes no prisoners, but gets his jollies keeping the ladies shuffling at his command.

Tell me what's up with that?

You are asking for a whole bunch of trouble. He's playing you like a violin. Leave him alone.

He broke up with his girlfriend. Should I leave things the way they are or do something?

Wait and be careful.

If he was talking to you behind her back, what the freak makes you think he won't do the same to you? Tell me please, why you can't acknowledge that fact?

Wait and see if he tries to charm another girl like he has you! He's a charmer and a player. Leave him alone!

You know for a fact that he was talking to you whilst he was still with his ex.

So he is a player.

Players should be avoided.

Avoid him.

OK I aprreciate everyone's advice but since when is talking considered cheating? We've been close friends for 4 years long before him and his girlfriend started going out so I'm not going to avoid my friend. Oh and Because he has/had a girlfriend means that we can't be friends and still talk? He has been acting this way around me for the past month or so,changed not all the years we've been friends so something has obviously changed. We also have most of the same friends so I know he doesn't flirt to this extent with every single girl.