I'm in grade 7 and I met my best friend in summer school before school started. I am 12 years old too and so is my best friend. Lets just called her Jane. Jane is a really nice girl (I'm a girl by the way) but she isn't afraid to say what she wants like curse words. She loves hugs and so do I. Last time we had a decent conversation was before mid-term when I was at my other best friends pool party. The week after her pool party, at school Jane sprained her ankle. So the week after(mid-term) she spent in bed. I would message her a lot asking how she was doing, but she wouldn't answer. Then one night I looked at my message and I saw one long message that said she wouldn't answer me if I was talking to her late because ill end up single. So I tried talking to her earlier. She didn't answer. When we went back to school she wasn't talking to me. I really missed her so went up to her and said hi. She said hi then turned her head the next way . I went to my other best friend who had the pool party and told her so she said she'd fix it. But when she came back to tell me the news, the news was: She said she isn't your friend anymore, I'm sorry. I miss her so much please help!

It can be hard to understand why things go the way that they do sometimes. As painful and confusing as it must be, you will find that often times people come in and out of your life. They may be there to help you during a stressful time, just for a period of fun and friendship, etc, and then one or both people drift away. There doesn't have to be any big reason for it either.

You could ask her directly, or just take her cues and accept that it was a nice friendship while it lasted.


As you grow older, you will find a few friendships may last many years at various times, most really only a short time, and if you are lucky... maybe one or two for most of your life.

I would ask her what the problem is. Obviously something happened, or she thinks that something happened, and it's caused a strain on your friendship. Tell her that you miss her, tell her that you don't know why she doesn't want to be your friend anymore, and you'd like to understand why, and apologize if you did something to upset her.

If she refuses, then move on. It hurts, and it sucks, but sadly a lot of friendships at your age, will end like this.