Hello to all. I am currently 15, almost 16, and I am not so happy with my current relationship status. I am single, but I like a few guys. I know that "you don't need a guy to be happy" and "you're too young to be worried about having a boyfriend," but I think my life would be a little more fun and exciting with one. The problem is, the only guys that like me are the ones that I consider to be my best guy friends, not boyfriend material. The guys that I do in fact like never seem to like me back. It hasn't always been like this. Back in 6th grade, I was a little boy crazy, not so focused on school, and had "boyfriends" (I don't really consider them so important because nothing was very serious in 6th grade). When I actually hunkered down and put effort into school the following years, the boys just faded into the background. I know it's more important overall to be a good student than to be "popular" and whatnot, but I can't help but wish things were easier with guys. I think they all believe I'm a "brainiac" and I don't care about guys anymore so I would be "undateable". I think another problem is that I am completely comfortable around my guy friends so I act like my crazy, funny self so I guess they like me more that way, but, on the other hand, when I'm around a guy I like, I get all nervous and act weird and apparently guys don't like that (go figure!).

My question is, how can I get over my nerves and just act myself? Or, how can I show that I'm not just a serious, "nerd" that only cares about school?

Hey, well first of all I know exactly how you feel... I use to be in that position, well minus the good student part ;). Secondly, I think that you should just talk to the guy(s) you like about things that don't involve school (unless they bring it up), just find common interests and crack jokes and converse... If you have other interests then just project them. Oh, and seriously don't worry about having a boy friend just for having one, I used to feel that way but it's so stressful especially at our age. Speaking for myself, I simply can't juggle it all and apparently you can't either. Just be happy with the guys that DO like you and be confident cause of that, it might be "hard" now but it'll be better in the long run. You are indeed young so this isn't a rush.

You seem to be mature to me.. there is only one aswer to your problem.. don't chase guys.. they will come to you when you don't expect it.. being yourself is the only way of finding out who really wants to be with you.. don't change yourself in order to be liked or even love.. stay as you are and whoever lkes you this way is the only one that deserves to be with you and will stay with you till the end of the time.