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MeekiMoon · Mar 5, 2011, 11:44 AM

My friend asked the guy I like if he would ask me out... (I was there and I didn't ask her)so he asked me. So, I said yes. And before he left, he kissed me on the cheek.( It happened at school and I felt like my heart was about to explode! I was SO happy and still am) Anyway, I said in my mind: "Oh no, I can't go out with him because my mom says I have to wait until i'm 15.... should i tell her or not?" My mom, on the other hand, isn't strict and she's pretty cool with most things.. but is she OK with it? I'm twelve, about to turn 13, is that too young to date? Should I tell her? The other problem is that my dad would destroy me if he found out.. but I've liked him ever scence I was in the 6th grade, and I'm in the 7th grade now, and I couldn't say no to him because everybody at school says we would be a cute couple and he said in his own words: "I LIKE u." Should I tell her or should I prove to her that I can? I have really good grades and a pretty focused person.(and I'm mature) I'm just... don't know what to do. (P.S sorry it was a long story) He's SO cute and who can say no to him?

redhed35 · Mar 5, 2011, 11:54 AM

You do as your parents ask..

Simple as that, they say 15, 15 it is.

Going behind your parents back would destroy their trust in you, and cause trouble for the boy from what you say about your dad, he's only trying to protect you, that's his job as a dad.. the really good dads do that.. count your blessings!

I understand you like this boy, but he will still be around when your 15 and allowed to date.

In the meantime,hang out with your friends,there is no 'get out' clause.

Cat1864 · Mar 5, 2011, 12:11 PM

Be honest with him. Your parents have a rule. You may not like it, but you have to abide by it. If he isn't willing to try to understand, then, no matter how cute he is, you don't want him for a boyfriend. Any person who encourages you to break rules, doesn't have your best interest in mind.

Do not lie or attempt to get around your parents' rule. If they find out, you could end up grounded until you are 18. If you do anything that damages the trust your mother has in you, I doubt she will remain pretty cool about anything and damaged trust is extremely hard to fix.

Talk to your mother. Personally, I think 12 is too young to date. Though, your parents might okay going out in a group with an adult present. Like to see a movie with a group of friends or having friends over to hang out.

Bottom line though is obey your parents. It may seem like they are out of touch, but they want what is best for you. If you don't understand their reasoning, politely ask why. Remember that maturity is accepting your parents' decisions with grace rather than reacting like a toddler throwing a tantrum or trying to get away with something.

Good luck.

dontknownuthin · Mar 5, 2011, 07:22 PM

I agree with the other posts. Tell him you are not allowed to date yet - and I agree with your parents, 12 and even 13 are really way too young.

But you are at an age where it would probably be OK to start including some boys in your group of friends, for example if you have a get together for your birthday that's chaperoned, or to go out for a movie and ice cream with a mixed group where nobody is off alone with anyone. I remember starting to go in mixed groups to middle school basketball games, and sometimes out for pizza afterwards or something like that, and moms and dads would drop us off and pick us up. Talk to your parents about whether that would be OK - if not, accept their answer - you'll be older soon enough.