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    ChristineT Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    #1

    Dec 18, 2006, 06:19 AM
    What to do
    I'm in a relationship that I never thought I would be in at such a young age... I'm only 17 years old and I live with my boyfriend who's 19... I know he loves becausse all the things he's given up to be with me . We got together when I was pregnant with another guys baby but then after being pregnant for 2!/2 months I had a miscarriage but he was with me the enire time and the guy I was pregnant by wasn't... well after I had a miscarriage I moved in with him and we've been togethter for almost a year now but its like for some reason I don't trust him and I don't know why all his friends tell me that he has never treated a girl as good as he has me and his mom tells me that he has never even told a girl he's loved her before but he came to her and told her that he loved me so everyone says that I shuld learn to trust him more but for some reason I can't and I want to know if that's a sign that I shuld leave him please help... :confused:
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    rol Posts: 804, Reputation: 162
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    Dec 18, 2006, 06:28 AM
    <<for some reason I don't trust him >>

    Why don't you trust him?

    And what happened with your ex that abandoned you while you were pregnant?

    The lack of trust with your current boyfriend is perhaps due do that abandonment..
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    Dec 18, 2006, 10:34 AM
    I hope you realise that with what you went through with your ex, has you thinking that this current boyfriend will leave you, and you don't want to be hurt again. Please try and understand this and let go of those feelings, they can have a bad effect on your current relationship. Can you talk to your boyfriend or a trusted best friend?
    i shuld learn to trust him more but for some reason i can't and i want to know if thats a sign that i shuld leave him please help .......:confused:
    I think it's a sign you have a problem to work on and resolve.
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    starsbooty Posts: 119, Reputation: 7
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    Dec 18, 2006, 11:16 AM
    I understand.. I'm going through the same thing with trust issues. Please listen to what they tell you about resolving your own issue and insecurities. Its hard, believe me but if you love him and want it to work.. try!
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    Dec 18, 2006, 02:05 PM
    Yes I have to go with the others here and suggest that perhaps the bad manner in which your ex treated you is contributing to you lack of trust in your current boyfriend.

    I hope you can see how unfair that is on someone who loves you as much as you say your boyfriend does.

    But I can understand your hurt due to this.

    Im not one to simply just say go and get some professional help. But sometimes it is hard here for us to get to the root of problems over the net. Talking to a trained counselor / therapist might be what you need to sort these issues out and enable you to get to a happy place with your boyfriend in a loving and trusting relationship!

    Good luck!
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    Dec 18, 2006, 02:15 PM
    Yesh - this guy sounds like a great guy.

    Communicate your insecurities with him. Talk, talk sme more - the ntalk more.

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