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    Dec 23, 2010, 04:12 PM
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    Well I'm a senior in high school, and I have a boyfriend who is as well. We are both arab. I don't wear the hijab (head scarf)... YET ! We have been talking about marriage a lot lately, && the more we talk about it the more we have arguments. He wants me to wear the hijab in front of his family, && I agreed to it. I respect his wishes on that. But then he said 2 weeks later that I need to wear it permantaly after the marriage, but I disagree with that. I told him I would wear it permantaly after my 1st kid, but he always screams & yells at me, pretty much says "why do u wanna dress so revealing (which i dont) & why do u wanna show off to other men??? I dont want other guys lookin at u" he said I must stay locked up in the house if I don't wear it. What should I do? I really love him, but I disagree with that, COMPLETELY!
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    Dec 23, 2010, 05:43 PM

    Well if he is controlling and demanding now, imagine what he will be like as a husband. Dump him, and see if that doesn't change his mind. If not... get use to doing everything he says whether you want to or NOT!

    He doesn't care what you think, or what you agree with. He is the man and you will do what he says!! End of story!

    You have had all the preview you need, the rest is on you, so I wish you luck, because I doubt you change him.
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    Dec 24, 2010, 06:12 PM
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    Thank youu, it really does helpp mee. I think I will take your advise && break up with him, ill just tell him its not working out if he wants me to do everything his way. If he doesn't rethink everything then it wasn't meant to be I guesss. Thank you !
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    Dec 24, 2010, 07:30 PM

    Yes, if he is this way now, he will be completely controlling and demanding if you marry him.

    He needs to understand you are the way you are, and he can either accept you just the way you are, or he needs to do something else
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