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    barbiechick123 Posts: 317, Reputation: 25
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    Jan 3, 2010, 04:20 AM
    I was used
    This new years, I made a huge mistake and carried it on. So, if you aren't informed on my ex boyrfriend, we were together for a week (though I liked him for 2 years) and he basically ignored me and supposedly hated me (which I just found out), a few days ago, on new years, he and his brother and my two friends came over. I wasn't going to hang out with my ex but he tagged along cause he has no social life and I felt bad, though we haven't talked since then and I wasn't really over him, also I wanted to be on friend terms. When we got here, we talked a little and then we all played hide and seek, him and I went into my bathtub by ourselves (he followed me) and he said he still liked me, where I confessed I still liked him. He asked me to makeout and acting on (stupid) impulse I did it and he felt me up too... That's not the end though, the next day, he came over and we made out again but this time he felt my bare boobs, fingered me over my underwear and he wanted to go under but I said no. A little bit later he left and it was really weird and I felt horrible afterwards. His friend who is my close friend told me he was using me and after making him tell me everything I felt sooo terrible. He said I was a stupid , he said I was stupid repeadetly, that I didn't know what I was doing, just all this terrible stuff about me for no reason. He then sent me a text saying that it wasn't going to work and that his life was better when he didn't ackowledge me and all that jazz and I just felt so terrible, humiliated and emberrased. I liked him for so long, all the posts I've made about me liking someone were about him dating back to 2007, and now this happens and he used me because that's what "highschoolers do" to quote him. I feel terrible and don't know how to face him in class now. I want to crawl into a hole and never come out. How do I deal with getting over this wound that's been open before this and now is just infected completely? I don't know what to do, I feel violated and stupid and worthless.
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    redhed35 Posts: 4,221, Reputation: 1910
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    Jan 3, 2010, 04:44 AM
    As hard as it is chaulk this one up to experience... and don't do it again.

    You were not stupid,you really liked him and he used that against you,HE is the one who should feel bad,he knows how you feel and he took advantage of that.

    Give yourself a break... walk in with your head high,keep your dignity..

    If he says anything,just say, you used me,you took advantage of my feelings for you,but I can assure you,I'm over it now!

    Move on,no contact... this will die down so don't feed it by telling everyone.

    We all make mistakes.. all of us,and we have all done stupid things,I can assure you of that.
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    Jan 3, 2010, 02:02 PM

    Thank's... I definitely will NOT talk to him ever again, and don't plan to. And he won't feel bad, he is very emotionally deprived, I think he may even be a sociopath because I don't think he's ever been remorseful for anything, to the contrary actually. I just feel terrible because I was so happy for a bit..
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    Jan 3, 2010, 02:22 PM

    Don't rely on a guy or money to make you happy---you never know when either will run out!

    You can make your own happiness.
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    Jan 3, 2010, 03:34 PM

    I know. Thanks

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