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    stacey010 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 17, 2008, 07:09 PM
    I think I might be developing feelings for a close friend?
    We're really close friends. He's bi-sexual (a little more to the gay side, though. All of his friends are mostly girls). We tell each other everything. Like, if one of us just had sex, we'd share all the details. We tell each other who we like, we watch gay porn together. We've cuddled, we've made out (kinda drunk)... etc. etc.

    I've always just looked at him as a friend. I was never physically attracted to him. I've never even came close to having romantic feelings for him or thinking of him in that way. But now I'm staring to.

    The thing is, I don't know how to tell if he's like coming on to me sometimes or if he's just really comfortable with me. I don't know if I'm looking too much into this. I mean, I might just be the fact that I don't have a boyfriend and I'm lonely and I want to feel loved.

    I need some opinions or advice or something.
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    Justwantfair Posts: 3,422, Reputation: 944
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    Nov 18, 2008, 09:52 AM

    He is bi-sexual, you have a close relationship but the relationship will not amount to anything. Keep your friendship but leave it at that, he will help fill a void while you are single, but don't sleep with him.
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    Nov 18, 2008, 09:14 PM

    So what if he's bisexual?! He is perfectly capable of having a relationship with this girl if that would work out well for them both.

    Having said that you have blurred too many lines here, that's all. You are good friends but good friends don't watch porn together or make out. Don't pursue this it will ruin any friendship you guys have.
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    Justwantfair Posts: 3,422, Reputation: 944
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    Nov 19, 2008, 08:06 AM

    Being bisexual means that he likes the pleasure he receives being with a man. I have had many bisexual friends when it comes down to it they are attracted to girls as well but usually for longevity will want to be with a man and when they force a relationship, even a good an healthy one, they often end up cheating because the relationship can not give them everything that they need. It is fair to say that if he is bisexual he will continue to want to be physical with men and although he may be attracted to her, it is not recommendable for her to invest more of her heart hoping she can keep him straight.
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    iluvedward Posts: 17, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 19, 2008, 08:13 AM

    I don't think the fact that he is bisexual is a problem at all. Its hard to give advice for me because I don't know all the facts, like how long have you been friends with him and how long have you had those feelings for him?
    I wouldn't tell him how you feel if I were you. However, I would try and find a boyfriend and see things go. You neevr know your friend might get jealous of your boyfriend and would wantto be with you! May be all he needs is to realise just how good you are for each other.
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    Nov 15, 2012, 04:19 AM
    HI I'm in a relationship for 9 years. Now that we were starting to think about marrige, my boyfriend an I have 2 children together. This starded when he receives phone callz and would answer them not in front of me. It happens that I the middle of da night an sms came in 2 his phone, I took it and read while he was a sleep knowing that it was wrong of me to check his massages.

    I discover that it was a girl. I immidietely woke him up and confronted him, we fough and he admitted that this girl has a thing for him but he told her that he is in serious relationship. He apologise and we carry on. I descover again that still he has another women also confronted hom about it, again he apologises telling that he does not know what got over him. Nothing I should worry about he has never do anything with this girl they are just playing around.

    Now my fear is after all these insidents. I started to loose some interest of him. I have that anger, I don't trust him anymore and I'm not confident about him as I use to. I love him don't want to loose him. What should I do?

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