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    Jul 16, 2006, 06:59 PM
    I think I'm being stalked/harrassed..
    There is this guy in my high school, he startedto follow me around lately.he knows where I work, live.. etc.. He has over 20 phone numbers and he always calls me. Today he called me and said " If i can't have you then no one else will".he also said " i saw you taking ashower the other night".. and he said "i will cut any guys throat who tryes to take you away from me". That scared me.he says all these weird things and its freaking me out. I don't know what to do.Were about to start school soon,and imafraid I will see him around a lot.. He constantly text's me. And plus I never gave him my number.thiz is getting really weird.. and he drew me a drawing, and he calls me2 tell me that he misses me and he doesn't know why.he keeps asking me to visit him.hes scary! Imafraid to tell my parents because I don't want to worry them.what should I do..! Please help a.s.a.p:confused:
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    Jul 16, 2006, 08:14 PM
    Please tell your parents immediately!! I know you don't want to worry them but I know that they would rather you tell them now then find out about it once it's too late. Please tell then now!

    If for some reason they don't help then call the police as soon as possible. This behavior is not normal and that boy needs to be dealt with. I am very serious, for your own safety please tell your parents and go to the police.
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    Jul 16, 2006, 08:33 PM
    I fully agree. Your parents definitely should know about this. You are right. This is not normal.

    Is it possible for you to change your number. I'm sure your service provider would be willing to cooperate given the circumstances.

    When you go back to school I think you should also tell someone with authority there of your concerns.

    This does sound fairly serious. Not normal at all.
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    Jul 16, 2006, 09:25 PM
    Go to the Police right NOW!! He has threatened your life. Do it immeditely.

    Tonight - NOW!! Police NOW!! Tell your parents immediately

    Tell your school what is going on. Make sure to document all phone call #s.

    Change your numbers.
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    Jul 17, 2006, 01:36 AM
    All of the answers above are great, PLEASE take into account!

    Tell your parents NOW, I'm sure they would rather be worried than sorry!

    This guy is weird and obsessed and obsession is an illness.
    Stay away from him.
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    Jul 17, 2006, 07:30 AM
    This must be documented by the Police. I knew a girl in high school that the same thing happened - for some weird reason her and her family did not go to the police and it went on for months.
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    Jul 17, 2006, 11:58 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wildcat21
    This must be documented by the Police. I knew a girl in high school that the same thing happened - for some weird reason her and her family did not go to the police and it went on for months.
    So true ! Wildcat21 is spot on. You need to get your parents and police onto the matter ASAP.

    Keep a log of all calls that he makes to you and also keep the texts that he sends to your mobile. It would also help if you make a note of the things that he says during the call, plus the time etc, the phone provider will also be able to provide evidence for when it is needed.

    Put a stop to the problem now, I'm sure you parents would worry more if they find out later rather than sooner ! Your not in the wrong, tell them now and get onto the police NOW.
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    Jul 17, 2006, 04:21 PM
    You have many good posts here to consider.

    I was stalked and harassed all through my high school years by someone who turned out to be capable of terrible things. The laws have changed significantly since those years. To do nothing is to ensure it will continue and it will probably escalate too. His threats are to be taken seriously. Whatever you may have done (if you have) that you think you shouldn't have doesn't count here so please don't guilt trip yourself in this. Absolutely no one deserves to be stalked and harassed. Telling your parents will be hard, I know, but if you are to access all the help that is available, that is where you must start. They will undoubtedly help you decide how to proceed from there. Please don't wait and see if it will get more serious, it is already serious enough. I know how it is.

    If you don't know how to start the conversation with your parents, print this thread out and hand it to them. I am sure there will be conversation to follow. I have a lot more to say about this topic but I think this is enough for now. Please don't wait.
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    Jul 17, 2006, 07:50 PM
    I think it may escalate as well - this guy sounds like massive creep - who needs serious help. Threats - follows you - says he watches you - threatens potential boy friends.

    Call the police now!
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    #10

    Jul 17, 2006, 09:17 PM
    But... im scared... hez in agang.. and I guess hez capable2 do anything... his friend called me and said " ima kill you b****".. idk what I did2 get him to do this.I don't like him.I never flirted with him.. nor made him get any ideas.hes weird.. and I don't know what to do.im even afraid at work.. at least there I kindda feel safe.. I hatew being at home.. its like sum1 is watching me.. but I'm afraid of calling the police.. or telling my parents... omg!>.each time my phone rings I'm afraid to answer.. even if I change my number... can't he find it?
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    Jul 17, 2006, 09:28 PM
    This is just even more reason for you to tell the police.

    This is serious matter. He is in a gang. I'm not overly familiar with gang violence as where I'm from we don't have much but surely the police can protect you from this person. At least more than you yourself can.

    I'm sure if you explain your concerns to the police that you had about going to them they can be sensitive to the issue and not make any drastic moves that may set this guy off. But at the very least they need to know.

    Not only do you need to protect yourself from this person but also your family. You need to consider their safety too.

    Please go to them this vry minute with all the details.
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    Jul 18, 2006, 12:20 AM
    Wouldn't it better instead of being scared alone - being scared with your parents??
    Don't be silly, tell them NOW!
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    #13

    Jul 18, 2006, 03:43 AM
    You know where to find help, should you be interested. You know how to find me if you need more information. I wish you well and quietly unsubscribes from this thread.
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    #14

    Jul 18, 2006, 06:21 AM
    I wasn't going to post here because the others have covered it so well. But now you NEED to get off the stick. If you are scared, if you are worried, then do what NEEDS to be done! And that is telling your parents and going to the school authorities at the least though the police would be better.

    If you don't take such action, then either you are not telling the whole story or a made up one.
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    #15

    Jul 18, 2006, 06:28 AM
    Couldn't comment Scott but nicely and truthfully said!
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    Jul 18, 2006, 08:08 AM
    I agree with Scott now. Or, in some sick way, enjoy the attention.

    Today - tell your parents. NOW! Call the Police NOW!! Change your cell phone NOW!!

    No deserves these threats!! And yes, they are threats to your life. Hello?

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