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    Hikari Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 30, 2008, 03:46 PM
    I think this guy likes me, but I DON'T like him.
    Okay, so there's this really funny, happy, and outgoing guy that was in my class last year, and he is once again this year. I'm getting the impression that he likes me, but the thing is, I don't like him back. I used to think of him as someone I'd want to get to know and be friends with, but now he's getting annoying.

    Some of the things he does: sits so close to me that our legs are touching, he greets me right when I arrive at school, whenever he sees me alone he approaches me, he keeps staring at me and whenever I look back at him he smiles, I draw a lot so he begs me to see my drawings, he compliments me, he keeps touching my things, and he always talks to me.
    I admit, I used to like him a long time ago, but I don't anymore because I've grown to like another guy.
    Are the things I've listed hints that he does like me?

    He doesn't seem to want to stop. I've tried walking away from him, but he only follows me wherever I go. I even told him that I wouldn't like a person like him because he's too outgoing, but he won't accept it and he covers his ears telling me that he doesn't want to talk about that.
    I also told him that I like someone else, but I think that just gave him a new topic or excuse for talking to me.

    I think he gets kind of jealous when I talk to other guys, because he interrupts or eavesdrops my conversations.

    I am 13 years old.

    Do you know what I can do to let him know that I do not like him?
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    Nov 30, 2008, 06:37 PM

    As long as you told him the truth, then there isn't much more you can do.

    You can be real mean to him so he won't be interested in you, but that might not be something you would want to do.

    It seems that you are more mature than he is. Girls do mature faster.

    Hopefully he'll get over it soon.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 07:53 PM

    Sounds like he has a crush on you and he is doing everything a young teen does to get the attention of the one they like.
    Being mean or doing things to make him decide you really aren't his type really isn't a good idea but sometimes that might be what it takes.
    The more you avoid him the more he might pursue you, but if you talk to him he could take that as you liking him back.
    I would say the best thing to do right now is tell him you are not interested in any kind of a relationship right now.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 07:56 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    Being mean or doing things to make him decide you really aren't his type really isn't a good idea but sometimes that might be what it takes.
    Totally isn't right to do. But it might be the only thing to do. Stick it out for a little longer. Maybe he will give up without having to be mean.
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    Dec 1, 2008, 05:15 PM

    In grade 6, there was a girl who did the same to me... It was really annoying. So, I was mean to her to get her off my back. It worked, but (6 years later) I still regret it. I think I could've handled it better. I would advise against it.

    Try having a stern conversation with him. I know these situations are tough, but make sure you exhaust every alternative before you're straight out mean to him.
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    Dec 1, 2008, 06:10 PM

    Lol.. I don't think I'm suppose to be laughing, but this is too cute. Just live your life and be flattered you have a stalker. If he annoys you too much to handle I would suggest telling him that he's a nice guy but he's too clingy.. if he keeps doing that hole finger in ears thing than tell a teacher.
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    Dec 12, 2008, 09:33 AM

    Don't tell a teacher that is just embarrisng for him girl
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    Dec 12, 2008, 02:53 PM

    My best friend has a guy who does the same things and if he is really set on you then most likely he's not going to give up easily so you have to be completely clear, even if it comes across mean he has to know that you DON'T like him, if his leg touches yours move, if he touches your thy swat his hand away. And instead of telling him that you wouldn't like a guy like him tell him that you could never like him just keep this up and hopefully he will get the point eventually, good luck
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    Dec 12, 2008, 03:34 PM
    I have no problem with a guy who is willing to "chase" a girl. Self confidence and a willingness to fall on your face and not be upset about it isn't the worst thing a guy can have.

    That said... a guy need to be able to know when to stop the pursuit.

    That he insists on touching you is a problem. That needs to stop.

    You said you told him you wouldn't want to go out with a person like him... OK... its time to tell him you don't want to go out with HIM.

    Tell him he's better off putting his efforts toward a girl who will like him back. If he persists... sees that as a challenge to push back... its time to tell him about harassment.

    All you can do is be direct and clear. You don't have to be mean.

    After that... if he still chases you... talk to a teacher. Hell, talk to his mother. I don't care if it embarrasses him... he had a choice. He chose to be an idiot.

    Its normal to like people who won't like you back, and to be liked by people you aren't interested in. its good you've been patient and tried to ease out of this.

    But, it hasn't worked. Time for you to elevate this a level.

    Like I said... be direct and simple. You don't have to be cruel or mean (until you do), but all you can do is give a person a chance to do the right thing. After that, you fight for yourself.

    This is a distraction that you do not need. Hopefully he will get half a clue and not be vindictive about it.

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