Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    Jackie_Calderon's Avatar
    Jackie_Calderon Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #1

    Oct 8, 2010, 06:25 AM
    My sister is 13 runs away from home and is sexually active what are my parents to do?
    She started running away from home last year, but she would leave for 1 noght and she would go to school the next day. Now she is not coming home from school, and not returning home till we find her. She is sexually active and aparently she doesn't care about her body, and sometimes she evenn jumps out the window in the middle of the night. Now she has no respect for my mother what so ever, she started cussing at her and embarrassing her anywhere, what should they do? They gave tried counceling, a half day program @ a hospital, she even moved in w/ me a while, but eventually my parents wanted her to move back in w/ them... I need some really good advice, my mom can't take it anymore, her mother passed away not even a month ago and my sister really isn't helping the situation... We need help!!
    redhed35's Avatar
    redhed35 Posts: 4,221, Reputation: 1910
    Ultra Member
     
    #2

    Oct 8, 2010, 08:18 AM

    Did something happen last year when all this started?

    Some serious tough love is needed,put locks on the windows so she can't get out,bring her to school making sure she gets into class,walk her into class if you can.

    Collect her from school,she does not get a say in anything she does until she starts behaving and following the rules.

    Its hard to keep it up,but it will work.

    No TV no phone no computer,no privacy, example she gets to be on her own when she's in bed,no light bulb! Straight to sleep and a bed time, bare minimum in her room,food clothes and oxygen is all she is allowed.

    As her behaviour improves she can be allowed some breathing space.

    Get her to the doctor for a full work up,including tested for sti/std's.

    She will kick up a fuss when this is implimated,but you/your parents will have to stick it out it your to turn this around,at 13 now it will only get worse as she gets older.

    Councilling,a must.

    A babysitter for when your parents need a break.

    A list of house rules that everyone sticks to and the consequences listed,she has to pull her weight in the house.

    If she thinks she being hard done by with no phone,computer,TV,you can get quite creative example,one set of clothes,no 'nice' food,example icecream,choclate,it all adds up.

    After a while of this and it won't take long, she will start to tow the line.

    This is hard core parenting,and your parents will need support to follow through.
    DoulaLC's Avatar
    DoulaLC Posts: 10,488, Reputation: 1952
    Uber Member
     
    #3

    Oct 8, 2010, 06:21 PM

    Just to add to what red said, I would also have her tested for drugs.

    What was she like when she lived with you?
    Homegirl 50's Avatar
    Homegirl 50 Posts: 10,794, Reputation: 2604
    Dating & Teen Expert
     
    #4

    Oct 8, 2010, 06:25 PM

    Did something happen to her before she started acting this way?

    You parents might want to take her to the doctor, have her tested for drugs and STD. If they can, they really should keep up the counselling.

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

I think my daughter may be sexually active [ 7 Answers ]

My 16 1/2 year old daughter has her first boyfriend. He is a nice boy and they get along great.. almost too great; lately they have been very touchy- feely. I overheard something that made me think they may be sexually active. I am very open with my daughter about this topic. I started dating my...

How old does a man is when stops being sexually active [ 11 Answers ]

My husband who is 50 is having problems getting erections, and ejaculations. Could he be reaching his final days with sex?

Sexually active teen [ 8 Answers ]

I am trying to find some help for my younger sister. She is only 15 and has become sexually active. Having had an abortion at 17 I am scared that she may end up like me. I don't know how I can help her get birth control, can I give her mine? Or will it show up in tests? I don't want her to have to...

How do I get my sister removed from my parents home [ 7 Answers ]

My sister is infecting elder abuse on my parents. She has been mentally abusing them, My parents are over 65years old and live in the state of California. They had to call the police on her 4-6 times in the last 2 month. My father is afraid of her he doesn't come out of his room and he's...

Memo to all sexually active teens [ 34 Answers ]

Hi, I am your hypothetical child, I would like to be born to a mom and dad that can afford to have me both emotionally and financially. I would also like to be born to a couple that can afford to give me a home, diapers, food and many of the other necessities that I will require. I guarantee...


View more questions Search